Finding Your Way - Through Your Why

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Giving Gratitude this Thanksgiving

As Ungraduated Living & Learning nears its one year launch anniversary, there are many items worth reflecting upon and giving gratitude for. For starters, let’s begin with the fact that less than 20% of podcasts that are launched make it into the following year of production. We’re coming up on our 1 year anniversary in just a few months and the listener base continues to grow.

The momentum won’t be slowing anytime soon. Actually, we’re planning quite a few changes that are aimed at making the community more engaging.

Launching our online community

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Coming by years end or early in 2022 will be an online community. This is where interested life-long learners can come together to share learnings, best practices, and ideas among each other.

Many people in today’s world crave companionship and in a community of learning and personal development, this is no different. As we all work to continue our ungraduation from societal programming towards our own empowerment; having a group of like-minded people alongside you can be beneficial.

Within our online community, the following can be expected:

  • daily motivational messages
  • sharing of individual wins and success stories
  • group accountability for anyone looking for help in their goals
  • resources for further learning (books / documentaries)
  • opportunities for networking and connection

Have your voice heard on Ungraduated Living & Learning

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A new feature that has been added to the website is a voicemail system. Go to and leave the show a question, suggestion, or other comment about what you are listening too.

As we move through time, we’ll be tossing out monthly questions for listeners to leave their thoughts on. These messages will be played on the show and commented on.

It’s a great way to have your voice heard and become an active member of the podcast. So, don’t be shy and head on over to and record your message right there from you phone or device. Let’s see who’s got some burning questions on their mind about their own self-development or the challenges they are working through in their own personal journeys.

This is your chance to take part in the show so let’s get interactive! I want to hear your voice!

Book Launch 2/22/22

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My first book, “Ungraduated” – Finding your why through dropping out of outdated belief systems, is set to launch on February 22nd, 2022.

The book is meant to be a step by step learning guide that opens the readers eyes to the understandings of Universal Law and how to use those principles to better your life, health, happiness, purpose, and overall success.

After all – more and more people are realizing that life isn’t in their hands, it really truly is mostly in their heads. And framing up the right belief system and mindset is more than half the battle when it comes to winning at life.

The template is written within this book to open up the eyes of the reader to the infinite amount of possibilities at their disposal. Once the journey begins, the only mistake is not seeing it all the way through to the end.

With the launch of the book, I will personally be seeking the help and support of a book launch team. The goal of this special group will be to help generate awareness around the book upon its launch. Should you have any interest in helping support this cause, please feel free to reach out to me via my website, and leave a comment.

There will be some swag and free books for those that are interested and become active participants during the book launch.

Giving gratitude in my life

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Outside of these ventures within the growing community platform that is Ungraduated Living & Learning, I have many other aspects of life to be grateful for. Giving thanks can actually make you happier in life. So why not take every opportunity for giving gratitude in our lives? Here are just a few more aspects of my life that I am fully grateful for:

  • A wonderful wife that supports me through all my endevors
  • Family that I never stop trying to help support, teach, and grow
  • My 3 fur babies that never cease to amaze me with their enduring love
  • Overall good health and vitality
  • The fact that we can engage in deep dialog and conversation
  • Abundance in life (never wanting / needing)
  • The life experiences that have crafted who I am…
  • My personal awakening that has me craving more learning and growth
  • A great career that has taught me more about life than I ever realized
  • Having a platform that enables me to share and spark thought

So what is it that you are most thankful in life? Undoubtably there are aspects of your life that you want to / need to give thanks for. I would love to hear from you!

Feel free to leave a comment here, or go over to and leave a message for me there. You just may even hear it played on the show! Certainly if you don’t want it aired, just let me know that too as I’ll always respect privacy.

Whatever you are thankful for this thanksgiving of 2021, I hope that you reflect upon it sincerely. For there is no greater way than to get more of what you want in life, through staying deeply connected to what you cherish most. Giving gratitude is a surefire way to continue getting more of what you hold most dear to your heart.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Defining Your Personal Brand

Many people in life claim to live as their authentic self, but what does that actually mean? Why does it matter? Should you even care how others view you? Absolutely YES! Don’t be the person that claims not to care how others view you. Defining your personal brand and living it authentically each day will bring more opportunities that you align with into your life. More opportunities leads to more purpose and fulfillment, which then brings more happiness into your life. Here is a step by step guide to help you build and set your normal operating standards of life.

What do you get Fired up for in Life?

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Chances are all of us have passions in life that drive us. Draw a line down the center of a piece of paper and write down all the different things in life that you love and care deeply for. On the other side of that paper, write all the things in the world that you’d like to see improved. When it comes to defining your personal brand, this first step is important.

You need to get very specific about what it is in life you want to stand for. For example, as I was defining my purpose, I knew very quickly that I wanted to make a difference for others. What I didn’t exactly always know was the how. It’s one thing to always be kind, generous, and overall a good human being – but how do you actually make a difference in the lives of others?

Look at the two columns and begin to circle the aspects you care mostly about and what to see the biggest areas of improvement in. These will become your “North Stars.” This will become your first step in defining your personal brand.

Embody all of your Passions Daily

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Like filling a glass completely full, you need to become these passions. How much will you fill your cup? The simple answer – until it is overflowing so that you are impacting others around you.

I’ll give you an example; I am deeply passionate about getting people to think bigger, reflect, pause, and seek answers to some of life’s greatest questions. So – I embody this daily. At every opportunity, I ask people about their lives. What fascinates them? Are there avenues of life that they desire more answers in? If they could find solutions to life problems, what answers would they need?

Simply getting into that modality everyday helps me embody these “higher-seeking” aspects into my daily life. I have become “these things.” This will be what I am forever. Not a day goes by that I don’t think these perspectives and try to get others to tag along for the ride.

So – become your passions. Allow them to overflow into others. Don’t be pushy about it, just “authentically you.” Meaning, at appropriate times, give people your best around what it is that you are passionate about in life.

Defining the Values for your Personal Brand

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While there are many different tools available to take you step by step through defining your personal brand, I feel there are none more important than developing your values system.

These values will decide what you say “yes” to in life, and when you say “no.” They will become your “personal set of operating system values.” They will help guide you, mold you, and transform you more into defining your personal brand.

Here are a few of mine:

  • Live with humility
  • Always seek to be curious first, and critical second
  • Live with gratitude daily
  • Be a net-giver over a net-taker
  • Live with Abundance in mind

You get to have fun with this process. As you work through the list, keep the following in mind:Consider the people you most admire.

  • Consider the people you value and admire most
  • Think of your personal life experiences
  • Take note of any reassuring themes
  • Capture your top core values

You can have a list anywhere from three to ten or more if you desire. As you discover and choose your core values, you are taking steps towards living and defining your personal brand.

Print and post the list! Laminate it or shrink it down to a pocket sized pamphlet that you can carry with you each day in your pocket. Refer to them as often as necessary.

Like will Attract Like in your Personal Brand

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Soon you will begin to take notice that the people in your life that don’t serve you fall out. Then more of the right people you need in your life come into it.

That is the beauty of framing up and defining your personal brand. Putting some time, energy, and thought into this sets up your mainframe and helps guide you into life’s greater purposes for you. You become more aligned and can live more authentically as yourself.

Confidence grows as more and more opportunities come your way. Your life begins to take on new meaning. Suddenly, this new found zest for life leads you to more and more abundance.

This is just once example of “doing the work.” Take the time to set up this “operating system” of a personal brand that defines you.

It will keep you guided along the way as you march ever more fervently towards your North Star.


The time of year has come to reflect on what was and look forward to what is coming. I wanted to take pause and put some thought out on how I’m looking back, in order to move ahead as positively as possible. A friend and Mastermind Leader of a group I am in threw this out to our group today as a good platform for as we enter the new year:

3 things that I am most proud of:

  • 60lbs of weight loss (I was 250lbs at the end of 2019, now much healthier 190lbs)
  • 365 days of legitimately beating my 1000 calorie move goal and exercising every day this year never taking a day off from physical activity
  • Investing in myself – joined a Mastermind Group, read 15+ books, listened to hundreds of podcasts while doing my morning exercise, began writing my 1st book

3 things I need to do differently:

  • Make more time for fun activities with my wife – could be playing board games, cooking with her, watching movies, or really just anything she wants to do. 2020 has limited us in our abilities to have fun how she and I used to with travel, so I need to prioritize time versus just “sitting at home with her.” That isn’t the “kind of time” I want to spend with her. It needs to be of higher quality
  • Commit to a meditation routine for 20 mins daily without fail
  • Plan daily / weekly initiatives, outside of work, so I can insure I accomplish personal goals

Top 3 greatest influencers for me:

  • James Clear – “Atomic Habits”
  • Dave Asprey – “Super Human”
  • John Baines – “The Stellar Man”

Smartest Decisions I made:

  • Investing in a Mastermind Group (I’ve seen great connections and bridges open up for me out of the group I attend bi-weekly since September)
  • Choosing my health and fitness over any other excuse not to
  • Investing in before online shopping grew exponentially (was more luck, but I fell into it with a small investment that paid off as the stock soared due to everyone staying home and being online)

Most caring acts of service:

  • My volunteering for hospice care (although this had to stop due to obvious circumstances in the present world environment)
  • Mentoring 3 different individuals throughout the year
  • Volunteering time to serve meals to those less fortunate through the holiday season

Biggest risks:

  • Cashing out of my Bitcoin stake and moving into a lesser known crypto currency (I believe this will payoff far more than my Bitcoin gains in the future but time will tell – all investments in crypto are high risk / high reward)
  • Writing a book (only because I truly don’t know where that future is taking me)
  • My foray into FOREX trading of currency (just toying around with it to learn right now, but again – high risk / high reward)

Most important relationships improved:

  • My relationship with my wife – even during the challenges of this year, I feel her and I are closer than we’ve ever been. We have aligned on “similar paths” of focus and interest in 2020 that is helping us bond at higher levels
  • My relationships with my family – while it never seems enough to me, I talk more with them and see them more than I have in years past
  • My relationship with the team I lead – I am responsible for 6 highly unique individual leaders, that I feel in my second year in position, has really seen our professional cohesiveness as a team grow stronger

One word that best describes all of 2020:

  • “Mental-Fortitude” – okay it’s technically two words by I hyphenated them to make it seem like one 😉

3 things to do less of in 2021:

  • Less time perusing apps on my phone (I’ve already cut out most all TV – now time for the wasted time on my phone – time is our greatest asset and I want as much of it productive as humanly possible)
  • Less time spent on politics – I simply cannot control it so I cannot allow the frustration to set in that at times can consume me
  • Staying up late – I want to ensure my days begin no later than 5:30am everyday for all that I want to accomplish in the New Year (personally and professionally)

3 things to do more of in 2021:

  • Weekly practicing to learn guitar (just bought a brand new guitar that I’m learning and can’t wait to become proficient on it)
  • Weekly practicing of my Spanish as I aim to be able to hold full conversations in the language
  • Write 500 words each day to contribute to my 1st book as well as my new blog “”

3 things to stop doing in 2021:

  • Stop making any excuses for not prioritizing my wife first before all else – she has been my rock and my soulmate as we’ve been together 20+ years…I will not take our time together for granted
  • Stop drinking completely during the week and limit drinking to just 2 times at most monthly (every other weekend for one evening of the weekend)
  • Stop my incessant daily Starbucks habit and cut it back as I work to get on 100% organic coffee

My personal Mantra for 2021 – “BE WITH ABUNDANCE

There is so much I have to be thankful for in my life and I know that it is my daily attitude, thoughts, and constant gratitude that will bring even more abundance into my life from the universe. This is so that I can continue to bring what I aspire after into the world for the impact that I hope to make for those around me.

For the many challenges 2020 has brought, there is much goodness laying within it. I hope this post helps bring some self-realization for anyone that may read it and perhaps challenge some similar thoughts and reflections.

May 2021 be of happiness, success, and peace for all that are seeking it to be so…

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