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Remove Anxiety from your Life through these 5 Steps

When most people are asked about their social pressures and how to remove anxiety from their lives, they’ll point to external factors they believe are out of their control. The fact is, the amount of anxiety we create or remove from our life is completely up to us. It comes down to mindset. We are either the creators of more anxiety or the buffers through which we weaken its grip.

Here are some basic and practical examples to remove anxiety from you life:

1. Bring yourself into Present Moment Awareness

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The first step in removing anxiety in your life is the realization that life only ever occurs in the present moment. We are too often caught up with our monkey mind of thought that we forget what is happening now. What is happening now is all we ever have control over.

When we find ourselves stresses over a future event that hasn’t happened yet or dwelling on a fear from the past, we cripple ourselves in the present. This causes us anxiety.

The key through this very important first step is to catch yourself in all the moments where you are feeling anxious. How often in the present moment do you actually deserve to be anxious?

Our minds are wired for a bi-gone human era. We used to depend on fight or flight responses for survival. However, today the stress we generate comes from meetings, tests, speeches, etc. We generate our own fears and anxious moments.

To begin stepping out of this trap, we must see life for how it always is lived – ever presently.

2. Remove Anxiety through Learning how to Breathe

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You read that right. Learning how to actually breathe is a thing.

After we understand how the benefits of becoming present aid us in life, we can begin to work on enhancing that presence. We do this through breath work.

There are many great resources that teach breathing exercises to aid in the reduction of anxiety. Too many people fail to realize they breath wrong. Yes, breath work in meditation helps as well. Yet, there are so many people that don’t realize we should be breathing from our abdomens, not our chests.

Diaphragmatic breathing can lower your stress levels, reduce your blood pressure, and regulate other important bodily processes.

Here are the simple steps to bring “belly breathing” into your life:

Here’s the basic procedure for diaphragmatic breathing:

  • Sit in a comfortable position or lie flat in comfortable position.
  • Relax your shoulders.
  • Put one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach.
  • Inhale through your nostrils for about two seconds. You should experience the air moving through your nostrils into your abdomen, making your stomach expand. During this type of breathing, make sure your stomach is moving outward while your chest remains relatively still or as flat as possible.
  • Curl your lips (as if you’re about to drink through a straw), while pressing gently on your stomach, then exhale slowly for about two more seconds.
  • Repeat these steps several times for best results or until you get used to the feeling.

3. Identify “The Gap” between You and what You cannot Control

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Reducing anxiety in your life becomes so much easier when you realize you only control you. This means your power of choice becomes your savior.

Even through most people will admit they have less control over their lives than they’d like to admit, they still try and control others as well as situations out of their control. We are relentlessly caught in our own rat race. Seeing the forest through the trees means seeing we only are playing the game of life against ourselves.

“The Gap” so to speak, is everything else. It’s other peoples choices, lives, careers, journeys, stresses, positives, negatives, and all else that comes along with life.

You have control over only one thing — YOU. When you can see this paradigm the world becomes less stressful. It isn’t about not caring or not trying anymore. Rather it is about only applying pressure to the situations that you directly impact.

This is one great epiphany that is worth the ticket of admission to reducing anxiety. Learn to let go of what you can’t control and only live through what you can.

4. Stop Playing the Comparison Game

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Once we realize we only really have to worry about our choices in life, we can begin to look at others around us. Or better yet, stop looking at others around us.

Yes we are going to socialize and enjoy life in good company. But we do not have to get caught up in the game of comparisons. Keeping up the the Jone’s is a trap. It’s a trap that causes us more stress and anxiety than we need.

Society has programmed us to admire everyone other than ourselves. We compare ourselves incessantly to others. What type of car, house, education, careers, spouses, kids, etc. do they have? This isn’t healthy for us or our own life missions.

Everyone is working through their own journeys. Some are asleep at the wheel, and others are wide awake and aware. Find what makes you happy in life and bring more of that thing into your existence. Stop searching for all the things your friends or coworkers have.

We need some things for safety, health, and overall contentment, but most things we chase after only generate more anxiety. By reducing our demands for all the things our neighbors and friends have, we also remove anxiety from our lives.

5. To Remove Anxiety Become the Spectator

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The fifth and final key to removing anxiety in your life is to realize that in the purest form of reality – you are the watcher or spectator of your life.

Yes, I know it’s metaphysical sounding, but it is the truth in my humble opinion. At our core, we are not our thoughts, worries, anxieties, egos, or even our minds.

We exist as a conscious energy awareness that sits behind the veil of physical life. We are a part of it, but we are not it. Life occurs on the physical plan of existence. When we come the watcher or spectator of our lives we can better view and respond to our emotions.

We can begin to see the fear, stress, and anxiety for what they really are mostly — fragments of our past that come around to haunt us in our present moments.

We can remove anxiety from our lives almost completely and live a happier, healthier, more purpose filled and enjoyable life. Once we see anxiety for mostly for what it truly is, we can begin to live a life full of more health benefits and many other life changing elements.

How has anxiety crippled you in your life? Are you ready to rid yourself of this self-perpetuated and damaging emotion? What best practices have you employed to help move remove anxiety from your life? I would love to hear from you — please feel free to leave a comment and join in the conversation.

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Becoming Present and the benefits in Life

Chances are you’ve heard of mindfulness. But what exactly is it and how does becoming present in life benefit you? From seeing life with more clarity to being able to better reflect for future benefit, more and more people are discovering mindfulness. There is power in presence. But how do we achieve it in this ever increasingly distracting world?

To Find Happiness, First Become Present

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I recently had a podcast guest by the name of Tessa Stowe that helped frame up quite nicely how to find happiness. Tessa is all about living in a high vibration. She mentioned how to find happiness being we first must pull ourselves into the present moment. We can’t become happy without being present. Really think about that for a moment. In most cases, when you remember happy moments, chances are you were deeply entrenched in that moment. Whatever joy you were experiencing was brought to you through exactly what was happening in your life at that present moment.

Quite simply, becoming present means stopping and noticing the world around us. You’ve likely heard the phrase, “stop and smell the roses.” That’s precisely what it means. Stop and “take notice.” The roses won’t last forever and their gift of beauty is meant to be enjoyed.

Too many people think that becoming present is about simply finding awareness. It goes well beyond that. It involves living with less ego. When we can lessen the ego, we have more ability to tap into our higher self. That’s the aspect of life we want to listen to over the ego and the mind. When we listen to our higher selves over ego, we will find more meaning, purpose, and happiness.

Becoming Present through Pain & Suffering

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But what about when we suffer pain and loss in life? That is about the last time we would want to worry about becoming present right? Actually, it is quite the opposite.

While pain and suffering are certainly emotions we want to avoid in life, they are often experienced as lessons. These life lessons teach us important values if we absorb ourselves in the moment. It may hurt to become fully present in times of suffering and loss, but important lessons come from those moments.

It is far easier to simply want to avoid these moments of pain and agony. However, we will grow and be better by appreciating the present moments of pain and suffering.

The human condition is going to involve suffering. By paying attention and becoming mindful in these moments, we are able to engage more fully in all other moments of life. This is how we begin to enjoy the special moments more. Realizing that the principle of polarity in life is going to bring us more swings of the pendulum is an important life lesson. It helps us not get too high in good moments, yet not too low in bad moments.

Increased Intuition in Life

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Increasing our mindfulness abilities helps us with intuition. Our minds become more clear and our hearts become more open. We are more clearly able to see the choices and paths that are laid in front of us.

This is a super important aspect of discovering and following your purpose. If we really want the most from our lives, we need to have guidance. And not just any guidance from any old Tom, Dick, or Harry – but rather guidance from its highest source. That guidance is available to us. All we need to do is be able to tap into it.

But we can’t tap into that life guidance if we are too busy stuck in ego and fast paced confusing lifestyles. Too often we are stuck in our own “monkey mind” of thought. Worried about tomorrow, next week, or next month. Fear from the past that we are brining into our present moments.

Intuition comes to us in many different forms through becoming present:

  • dreams
  • moments of brief insight (like when the lightbulb flips on in your mind)
  • moments of synchronicity and life alignment
  • the books that we are led to read through connections and friends
  • the people that come into our lives for reasons, seasons, or lifetimes

If you want more intuition in life, focus on becoming present in your daily life.

How to Become more Present Everyday

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  1. Look at life like a puzzle:

When we become more present, we begin to actually “see life.” What I mean by this is we notice the small things. These small things can play on us in many unique ways. Sometimes for our own learning and other times for us to simply become happy. Birds singing, waves crashing, roaring thunder in the distance. Whatever it is – take notice. It’s all apart of the beauty in life that you are meant to notice.

2. Be with your breath:

This is all about making the time to slow down. If you find yourself deep within any type of uptempo timing and want to come back into the present moment – just breath. What I mean by this, it notice your breathing. Take a few deep breaths. Focus on large inhales and exhales through your nostrils. Notice how the air feels going in and out. While doing this, you mind automatically slows down so you can become present. Then, you can begin to notice the world around you.

3. Generate a morning and evening routine:

Whether it is morning and evening meditations or journaling, begin and end your day in the same way. There is so much to gain in presence when we stick to a morning routine. This routine sets up your day for alignment with your purpose and ends your evening for a night of good dreams and intuition to feed your mind.

What other aspects have you used when becoming more present in life? I welcome all ideas so that we can continue our learning and growing together.

Please feel free to leave a comment and thank you for reading…

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Outcomes of Cause and Effect and its Principles in Life

If you could look back at your life and see the possible outcomes of all the decisions you didn’t make, would you do it? Perhaps the tiny choices you made might have added up to make big differences in your current situation. Life outcomes of cause and effect often go unnoticed. We stroll through the minutia of our days giving little pause to the mundane. Perhaps we do make space for the bigger decisions. But what would happen if we could keep score for all the outcomes of cause and effect in life?

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Cause & Effect is my favorite principle of the Hermetic Kybalion teachings. It’s the one that I am constantly striving to understand its impact in life. In order to create change, we must begin with us. Too often people do one of two things:

  • They get angry with the world and decide to become belligerent and outrageous yelling, protesting, becoming angry with what they see around them.
  • They become a recluse and retreat to “fake realities,” putting blinders up and pretending the outside world isn’t there

But then this is a precious few type of people. They are the ones that understand on an basic and collective level that real change occurs from our individual and collective thought. In order to bring about change in our lives, we have to create it ourselves. Being upset, clambering about the world’s problems, and becoming negative does nothing but breed more of those actions. Standing by pretending problems don’t exist is not a wise decision either.

Before Action, we have Thought

We individually and collectively bring into our physical world what we think. This is cause and effect. This principle means that nothing ever happens by chance. There is a reason for everything. Every decision we make has an outcome that is produced. This principle is in harmony with the principle of Correspondence.

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There are higher planes of existence that dominate the lower planes and all throughout these planes of existence nothing escapes the Principle of Cause & Effect. Everything comes with explanation if we look upon it with known understanding. The way to use this principle with more empowerment is to consciously become aware of how it works. Step back, become aware, and “watch” your thoughts in action.

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Becoming Mindful

The trick is to realize that the mental plane (plane of thought) is where we spend a great deal of time. Become “mindful” of thought. Tune into our own cause and stop simply allowing effect to happen “unknowingly.”

This means become the catalyst for life. Through our thoughts, we are literally thinking our lives into existence, one moment at a time. If we think in an anxious and fearful manner – we will bring more of those emotions into our lives. Think in a calm and peaceful demeanor you will have more abundance of those types of reactions in life. We can put into action the first move, which will bring us the result we desire, not as a surprise, but a product of calculation. For more on this you can check out Dr. Hawkins Power vs. Force work and his “Map of Consciousness.”

You see how this parlays back to the principle of correspondence? We often say we want to live better lives and become better leaders and individuals. What steps does that entail? Perhaps we chose to focus on writing each day and reading more often. As opposed, to not doing those things, and finding the excuses to sit around and watch more TV and news.

When one is on the quest to become a person who has mastery over their “Self” they begin to gain control their feelings, personality, and environment. That individual will naturally have to obey the causation of higher planes in accordance to this principle. When one becomes more aware of this, it is impossible to act out of compliance to higher principles.

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Developing more Awareness to take Control

Having awareness of this will give you the ability to take control on the physical plane of existence that we all live in, without walking through life in utter disarray and lack of control.

I sincerely hope anyone reading this will understand that we are individually and collectively creating our own worlds. We can choose to ignore what we see hoping that someone else will come along and change it. We can get upset, scream, and yell at the people we don’t like seeing them do what they do, or we can all look within and become better at controlling our mental thoughts.

This way we manifest what we want here in the physical. The outcomes of cause and effect become more apparent. We don’t NEED ANYONE to tell us how to live. Suddenly, the power and ability within ourselves is revealed for us to attain our greatest potentials in life.

Journaling is a great way to see this live in action. Take a few notes a day on your mood and feelings. Then take note of what happens around you. What effects are generated from the “cause” your mood or mental state?

What are your thoughts on cause and effect? Have you had any profound examples of cause and effect that stand out in your life? I’d love to hear your learnings and perspectives. Leave a comment, share a story, and join in the conversation.

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The Principle of Vibration and its effect in Life

Everything in life is vibrating. Life is made up of energy. The chair I sit on as I type this post is not actually solid. It is made up of billions and billions of tiny little atoms swirling around at such a fast pace that the chair appears solid and even holds me in place. But, the chair is not actually “solid matter.” The Principle of vibration and its effect in life is something that we need to understand in order to see the bigger picture.

In my previous blog post, we discussed the principle of correspondence, the second of the 7 principles of the Kybalion. The third principle of Vibration builds upon this learning. Feel free to go back and read it as well as the first principle of mentalism.

Atoms are Actually Empty Space

Science and physics have come a long way over the centuries and in the modern era we have come to understand energy is at the center of everything. It has been proven true that atoms are actually made up of empty space.

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Here’s some mind-bending statistics – an atom’s nucleus is only a few femtometers across. A femtometer is actually a word, I didn’t just make it up, though it sounds like it. A femtometer is about a thousand million millionth of a meter. Super incredibly small.

So now we need to understand exactly how far away the electrons are from the nucleus of the atom. They actually travel around the nucleus at a distance of one-ten-billionth of a meter away from the core. To “right size” this – it’s 100,000 times the width of the nucleus. A comparison to this would be if the nucleus were a basketball centered in Manhattan, then the electrons flying around it would be circling from about the distance to Philadelphia. All the space in between the rotation — is empty space.

The chair you are sitting in is made of empty space. I know it sounds crazy, but it’s proven truth now by science. The electrons and the nuclei are constantly engaging through the force known as electromagnetism. Each circumference around the atom is carried about the rotation through an electronic force of a particle of pure energy called a photon. Each photon pushes back with equal force, a tiny push or pull enabled across the emptiness in space. And that, along with some other quantum physics jargon, is really what’s keeping my ass from drifting through “the stuff” I call my chair. It is really all the “energy force” of this process that holds the chair together.

The Human Body is Vibrating

Enough with the science lesson. Energy makes up the physical world. This energy is in constant vibration and movement. The human body “vibrates.” The body can generate mechanical vibrations at very low frequencies, so-called infrasonic waves.

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Different organs of the human body produce different resonance frequencies. For example, the heart resonance frequency vibrates at 1 hertz. The brain has a resonance frequency of 10 hertz. Everything we see in life is vibrating at a set pace; some really fast and some really slow. To really understand this try and think of a tire on a car or truck moving VERY fast. It almost can appear that it’s not moving at all right? And at the lowest levels of vibration, objects move extremely slow. They appear to be not moving at all -think rocks and trees.

Between these two states of super fast and very slow, there exist infinite manifestations all occurring at varying octaves of vibration, each with their own existence and reactionary states.

Be More Mindful

I believe that human thought has its own level of vibration. We can tune it like an instrument to produce different results. With better understanding of the principle of vibration, we can aim to generate self-improvement in this physical form. We even can learn to manifest thoughts into existence in our own lives. We just need to be mindful of what thoughts we want to manifest. That depends on becoming more mindful and aware of our mental and emotional state.

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As we can better understand vibration and our own frequency; harmony and resonance increases, and thus our power over ourselves and our world. This is the way that we ultimately can control and better ourselves, along with the entire world – one…person…at…a…time.

What examples of the principle of vibration have you witnessed in your life? Please feel free to comment, leave a reply, and join in the conversation. I’m always open and looking for great connections.

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