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Misbeliefs on Meditation and Mindfulness

If you are like most people, you have many misbeliefs on meditation and mindfulness. However, you need not be most people. You can find the time, practice meditation and mindfulness daily, and reap the many benefits that it gives us. All you need to understand is what meditation and mindfulness really is. Once this framework is understood, you can be on your way to meditating multiple times each day. This will help calm the mind, and open your intuitive pathways to more insight and guidance.

Misbelief #1 – Meditation takes too long

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Too many people picture the practice of meditation taking up hours of their day. This is one of many very big misbeliefs on meditation. People often don’t even begin to practice because they don’t think they have the time.

The fact of the matter is that mediation can be as short as 30 seconds of quiet time. It need not take up hours of time.

Chances are you have many opportunities throughout a given day to meditate. Do any of these moments in time sound familiar?:

  • riding on public transportation
  • going for a walk or run
  • sitting down to eat
  • driving to or home from work
  • or any other mundane daily task

These as well as many other moments of time throughout our days are all opportunities to meditate. We have more time than we often realize to create space, pause, and practice mindfulness.

If nothing else, dispelling the belief that meditation must be “so many minutes or hours” of time is crucial. Once we get past this first hurdle we can move onto another misbelief – to meditate we must clear our minds.

Misbelief #2 – To Meditate properly, I cannot allow any thoughts into my Mind

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There are a lot of people that have misbeliefs on meditation and mindfulness because they believe they aren’t doing it right if thoughts enter their minds. This is so damaging because most people can’t avoid this when they first begin. They instantly want to give up since they think they are doing the practice incorrectly. The fact is, even very seasoned and experienced practitioners of meditation watch thoughts creep into their minds while meditating.

The trick too kicking this misbelief to the curb is to allow thought to enter the mind. Observe it and then quickly and quietly dismiss it.

You will find it often and frequent at first to see thoughts coming and going into your frame of reference. This is completely normal. Dismiss the thought and tell yourself you are here in this time to observe the practice of meditation. Do not beat yourself up or become discouraged if thoughts continue to enter your headspace. Simply acknowledge them and let them go. Bring yourself back into the present moment and continue to put out the intention of practicing meditation.

The more you make the effort for a few minutes each day and continue to allow the passing thought, the more you’ll find yourself with periods of calm mind and thoughts.

Misbelief #3 – Meditation must be done in a certain posture

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The above image is a typical representation of what most visualize meditation to look like.

The fact is that meditation can be done sitting, laying, standing, walking, running, and in many other points of posture. This is one of the biggest misbeliefs on meditation. For myself, the typical “sitting lotus” position is not comfortable. I prefer sitting in a chair, with my back relatively straight and my feet on the floor, or when lying down.

You need to find a position that you’re comfortable in. Once you find what works best for you, then work to get your body and breath work in proper synchrony.

The position of the hands can become relevant for certain different types of mediation, but the placement is not overall related to the practice of meditation. The key is get your body relaxed and comfortable so that your mind doesn’t naturally wonder due to your body being uncomfortable.

Explore and find what positions work best for you. There really is no one best position that works better than others.

Misbelief #4 – I’m going to see immediate benefits

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While you will feel more calm and collected immediately upon completing any amount of time of meditation, the vast improvements in your life come later.

Like in all things, the real benefits take some time. We’ve all heard the analogy of working out in the gym – muscles don’t grow after just one workout. We need to apply ourselves routinely in order to notice changes. The same can be applied here.

Over time the many benefits become noticed. They are, but are not limited to, the following:

  • lowered blood pressure
  • lowered anxiety
  • increased focus and awareness
  • increased levels of intuition and “gut instinct”
  • ability to enter “flow state” and maximize idea generation

All it really takes is a small amount of time each day or even small increments multiple times a day. I find myself making a game of it to see how many times in one day I can bring myself fully into the present moment. This is one simply way of practicing meditation – the more presence you attain in one day, the more you are practicing meditation and mindfulness.

Misbelief #5 – Meditation is hard

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Another one of the big misbeliefs on meditation and mindfulness is that it is too hard.

This is simply not true. The fact is that meditation is actually quite easy. All you need to do is rewire your mind to understand that anytime you bring yourself into the present moment – you’re practicing meditation. You become more mindful when you are not dwelling in the past or future. There are many great benefits to becoming more present in life.

When you frame it up this way, you can really make some great progress in the meditation and mindfulness space. Think of all the times through the day you get stuck in forward thinking aspects of life or issues from the past. Just make more of a commitment to bring your thought and focus into “the now” or present moment.

There may be no better way to do this than observing nature. I find nature as the most calming and ever present aspect of life. Perhaps this is because nature itself isn’t stuck analyzing itself. It just simply – “is.” There is no past or future in nature. The time is always “now.”

So even if you’re stuck in traffic, in a boring meeting, or worried about a future project; just take a peak outside or get outdoors and notice the present beauty in whatever is happening. You’ll likely find you have far more ability to meditate and practice mindfulness than you once realized.

Here are some easy steps to get good at using nature to become more present.

What misbeliefs on meditation do you have?

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I’m sure those reading this have heard of the many significant benefits in meditation. However, they often talk themselves out of getting serious about the habit.

Part of my purpose in life is to remove limiting life beliefs for people that don’t see themselves in the most empowering light.

Are there any other aspects of life that deter you from the ability to make a great daily mediation habit? I’d like to hear them so that we can together work to dispel any misbeliefs on mediation and mindfulness that keep us from attaining greater levels of happiness, wellness, and meaning. As well as sharing any best practices that help aid the cause towards more meditation and mindfulness.

Please feel free to share a comment or perspective. I’d love to hear your thoughts…

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Never Forget We are All Connected

Never Forget…

No se olvide (Spanish)

jamais oublié (French)

Niemals vergessen (German)

Не забывайте (Russian)

דו זאלסט נישט פאַרגעסן (Yiddish)

别忘了 [bié wàngle] (Chinese)

忘れないで (Japanese)

잊지 마라. [ij-ji mala.] (Korean)

لا تنسى [la tansaa] (Arabic)

मत भूलो (Hindi)

Unutma (Turkish)

Those words live in infamy across the globe. Some of the phrases above translate to “Don’t Forget.” Nevertheless, these words are solidified within the hearts, souls, and minds of billions of humans across the globe for different reasons.

I remember where I was that day when I watched the towers burn and crumble…many of us do.

But now 20 years later – what do the words “Never Forget” mean through my own interpretation, growth, learning, and internal development?

Never Forgetting the Lives Sacrificed

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While many see war as a necessary means to an end – I no longer do. That said, I will never forget the millions of lives sacrificed around the globe for what these men and women believe to be the greater good, on all sides, not just from the standpoint of an “American.”

These brave souls stand, fight, and often die in the line of duty for their nations. As human consciousness continues to evolve, I can see a day in the not so distant future through which we do not solve conflict through acts of war and further violence.

War is an outdated belief system that can be un-programmed in the minds of our leaders. We need not resolve disagreements through acts of violence and murder. There are other, more spiritual and soulful answers against those actions that are more egoic and worldly in nature.

All of that said – I will never forget the tens if not hundreds of millions of souls across the globe that have given their physical lives for what they believed in. While I don’t find it necessary any longer, I acknowledge the “up to now” aspect of the human consciousness. I respect and appreciate all lives around the globe that have served their countries and died for their respective causes.

My hope, belief, and meditation is that all soldiers around the globe lay down their arms before their leaders and commit that they will fight no more.

For we need not sacrifice another human soul through the act of war if we choose not too listen to those calling upon us for more war. There are better ways – better solutions to resolving conflict and disagreement.

Never Forgetting to Bring More Love to the World

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Love is the antithesis to hate as well as the overarching answer to solving it. Without sounding too “hippieish” – all we need is love.

This is a fact. As human kind moves up the spiritual levels of consciousness, love is where we begin to show more care, appreciation, and connectedness with the world. Above the levels of love are joy, peace, and enlightenment:

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I will never forget that we are all human first. No matter our difference of opinion, political alignments, spiritual belief system; we are in this human playground experience together.

In this hyper-polarized world in which we live, I continue to work to observe the pendulum swing of the principle of rhythm.

As the power controllers of the world aim to stay within power, I believe it is often intended to generate more hate, division, opposition, and in-fighting. It is my opinion that this is by design to hold humanity back or slow our progress of collective consciousness evolution.

I will not forget that humankind is wising up to these Hegelian dialectic tactics:

Never Forget we are purposefully positioned against each other politically
Hegelian Dialectic Example in Politics

Thus, I will not forget to see you as a “human being first” over all other labels that we have given ourselves or have received from society.

Never Forgetting that United We Stand – Divided We Fall

Never forget united we stand divided we fall

Above all else…

I have learned in the last 20 years that we are connected on this planet not only through a physical nature, but spiritually as well.

We truly are all connected. There is no force on this planet that can stop us if we collectively bond together. Yes, there is work to be done. All of humanity is slowly waking up to the fact that there are manipulators abound that are trying desperately to hold us back.

Every tactic in the book of psychological warfare is being cast upon as globally. I believe the archaic operating system of power and control is crumbling around us. Thus it is why we are experiencing such extremes.

Never forget that we are many, they are few. Their intentions are to hold us back, retard our spiritual, collective conscious evolution.

Never forget that it is humanity’s destiny to push forward and reach it’s full potential.

Perhaps the pivotal point that took our breath away and caused our collective hearts to skip a beat twenty years ago to the day on September 11th, 2001 was the beginning of the outdated oligarchy beginning to crumble apart.

I will never forget those lives lost then, after, and continued.

For it is through them, that my then closed eyes – are now wide open…

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Personal Growth – Deciding on a Coach, Mentor, or Consultant

The title of “Coach” seems to be a buzz worthy descriptor in the modern era. But what exactly does a coach do and do you need one? Is a “Mentor” just someone that you look up to with more experience that can help you? Perhaps you just want a “Consultant” to give you the best advice possible on your business or personal life. Differentiating between the three terms can be helpful towards your personal and professional personal growth. They all do overlap some in defination, but understanding the key points can help you decide which is best for you.

Defining a “Coach” for Personal Growth

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The term that gets thrown around most in the personal growth space is “coach.” But how exactly does this term relate to your personal or professional life?

A coach is definitely someone that is playing on “your side” in life. They are close to you and know what you are working through. Coaches have a level of expertise and tend to know more than you on the topics you are seeking to understand. A coach is someone that is going to play the game of life with you, not above you or below you.

Coaches “sponsor” you – they help bring you along in life. They work with you on the specific areas of personal growth you feel you most need. A good coach isn’t going to alway tell you how to achieve what you want. Rather, they guide you along your authentic path towards your goals. Often, they have walked similar paths and can provide necessary perspectives.

Ten plus years ago, people that needed coaches were typically behind in their business or personal aspects of life. This has changed in the recent past. People that seek out the expertise of coaches today are some of the most successful and ambitious people. They aim to achieve the highest level of impact, purpose, and meaning in life.

Many of the most successful people today ALL have “life coaches.” This encompasses Executives, Entrepreneurs, Writers, Influencers, and many more walks of life.

How Mentors Impact your Life

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“A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you.”

Bob Proctor

A mentor is an individual that you will aim to share 100% of your life with. This includes the good, bad, and ugly. They are going to support you regardless. Mentors may not necessarily know more than you around what you are bringing to them.

Often times, mentors are people that are older than you and have more “life experience.” They differ from a coach in this regard because a good coach doesn’t have to have a particular age. However a good coach needs to have a deep understanding of the topic you wish to grow within.

Mentors need not give advice simply on professional careers. Like coaches, they can provide insight and guidance on personal lives too.

You go to mentors with all sorts of aspects of your life. Perhaps before committing too much in a relationship. Or possibly before investing into a certain business. They don’t tell you what to do – but through their experience they help you figure it out.

We need mentors in our lives that we can bring ideas, problems, and needed points of perspective from all aspects of life. They may not always have the perfect answers, but their level of experience often outweighs yours due to the time they’ve experienced life over you.

Does this mean that ALL mentors need to be older than you? Not necessarily – but this tends to be the norm to the definition.

How Consultants fit into Personal Growth

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Coaches and mentors tend to be more personal when it comes to their services and advice. This is one of the delineating factors between those two titles and that of a consultant.

Consultants tend to be “less personal.” You generally aren’t going to hire a consultant to give you personal advice regarding your love life. The relationship with a consultant is more business to business and more “transactional” in nature.

Consultants often have a level of expertise that pertains to certain aspects of business. They are hired to provide you a level of view that perhaps you aren’t seeing. Often they possess a knowledge advantage that can assist you.

Maybe you want more understanding of how to maximize labor in your business? Perhaps better marketing? These are avenues most left for professional business consultants.

You would likely want a consultant when it comes to higher levels of your business over your personal life.

Summary

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The modern world and the smart people within it are always looking for the edge when it comes to achieving their purpose.

As we seek to live more as our authentic selves we should aspire to seek the knowledge others can provide us. It comes down to understanding what you most need and specifically what aspect of life or business you are aiming to improve within.

I define myself as a “Possibility Mindset Coach.” There are many, many different types of coaches out there. The term “life coach” has the most uniform understanding for coaches that aim to help people in different aspects of their lives.

But remember that our lives have many different bridges we are building towards our success. Be sure to identify what specific area you most want growth and coaching in. Ensure that your goals align with those of your coach, mentor, or consultant.

What areas of life do you find yourself needing the most advice, support, or perspective within?

I’d love to hear from you…

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Becoming Present and the benefits in Life

Chances are you’ve heard of mindfulness. But what exactly is it and how does becoming present in life benefit you? From seeing life with more clarity to being able to better reflect for future benefit, more and more people are discovering mindfulness. There is power in presence. But how do we achieve it in this ever increasingly distracting world?

To Find Happiness, First Become Present

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I recently had a podcast guest by the name of Tessa Stowe that helped frame up quite nicely how to find happiness. Tessa is all about living in a high vibration. She mentioned how to find happiness being we first must pull ourselves into the present moment. We can’t become happy without being present. Really think about that for a moment. In most cases, when you remember happy moments, chances are you were deeply entrenched in that moment. Whatever joy you were experiencing was brought to you through exactly what was happening in your life at that present moment.

Quite simply, becoming present means stopping and noticing the world around us. You’ve likely heard the phrase, “stop and smell the roses.” That’s precisely what it means. Stop and “take notice.” The roses won’t last forever and their gift of beauty is meant to be enjoyed.

Too many people think that becoming present is about simply finding awareness. It goes well beyond that. It involves living with less ego. When we can lessen the ego, we have more ability to tap into our higher self. That’s the aspect of life we want to listen to over the ego and the mind. When we listen to our higher selves over ego, we will find more meaning, purpose, and happiness.

Becoming Present through Pain & Suffering

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But what about when we suffer pain and loss in life? That is about the last time we would want to worry about becoming present right? Actually, it is quite the opposite.

While pain and suffering are certainly emotions we want to avoid in life, they are often experienced as lessons. These life lessons teach us important values if we absorb ourselves in the moment. It may hurt to become fully present in times of suffering and loss, but important lessons come from those moments.

It is far easier to simply want to avoid these moments of pain and agony. However, we will grow and be better by appreciating the present moments of pain and suffering.

The human condition is going to involve suffering. By paying attention and becoming mindful in these moments, we are able to engage more fully in all other moments of life. This is how we begin to enjoy the special moments more. Realizing that the principle of polarity in life is going to bring us more swings of the pendulum is an important life lesson. It helps us not get too high in good moments, yet not too low in bad moments.

Increased Intuition in Life

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Increasing our mindfulness abilities helps us with intuition. Our minds become more clear and our hearts become more open. We are more clearly able to see the choices and paths that are laid in front of us.

This is a super important aspect of discovering and following your purpose. If we really want the most from our lives, we need to have guidance. And not just any guidance from any old Tom, Dick, or Harry – but rather guidance from its highest source. That guidance is available to us. All we need to do is be able to tap into it.

But we can’t tap into that life guidance if we are too busy stuck in ego and fast paced confusing lifestyles. Too often we are stuck in our own “monkey mind” of thought. Worried about tomorrow, next week, or next month. Fear from the past that we are brining into our present moments.

Intuition comes to us in many different forms through becoming present:

  • dreams
  • moments of brief insight (like when the lightbulb flips on in your mind)
  • moments of synchronicity and life alignment
  • the books that we are led to read through connections and friends
  • the people that come into our lives for reasons, seasons, or lifetimes

If you want more intuition in life, focus on becoming present in your daily life.

How to Become more Present Everyday

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  1. Look at life like a puzzle:

When we become more present, we begin to actually “see life.” What I mean by this is we notice the small things. These small things can play on us in many unique ways. Sometimes for our own learning and other times for us to simply become happy. Birds singing, waves crashing, roaring thunder in the distance. Whatever it is – take notice. It’s all apart of the beauty in life that you are meant to notice.

2. Be with your breath:

This is all about making the time to slow down. If you find yourself deep within any type of uptempo timing and want to come back into the present moment – just breath. What I mean by this, it notice your breathing. Take a few deep breaths. Focus on large inhales and exhales through your nostrils. Notice how the air feels going in and out. While doing this, you mind automatically slows down so you can become present. Then, you can begin to notice the world around you.

3. Generate a morning and evening routine:

Whether it is morning and evening meditations or journaling, begin and end your day in the same way. There is so much to gain in presence when we stick to a morning routine. This routine sets up your day for alignment with your purpose and ends your evening for a night of good dreams and intuition to feed your mind.

What other aspects have you used when becoming more present in life? I welcome all ideas so that we can continue our learning and growing together.

Please feel free to leave a comment and thank you for reading…

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Want More Meaning in your Life? Follow these five steps

The world is going through a human consciousness shift. We are beginning to realize the old way of earning a living is melting away to a higher and more purposeful one. Making an living used to only be about how to best take care of you and your family. In the new world consciousness that will matter too, but also at a “higher collective” level. Living with more meaning is about making a difference in life on multiple levels. Do you want to live as your best and highest most purposeful self? Read on for more understanding and institution of these powerful mindset shifts.

The Different Layers of Meaning in Life

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When we think about making more meaning in life we generally start with us. That’s a good and natural place to begin. But what comes after when we are provided for at a sufficient level? That’s the million dollar question that more and more people these days are seeking the answer to. Let’s sum up the different layers of impact in life:

  • Self (personal)
  • Personal tribe (those closest to you)
  • Outer tribe (those you don’t know on collective level)
  • Global (Earth level)
  • Universal (All consciousness)

It makes sense that we begin with us. We must first have ourselves in order before we seek to make any higher level impact. This is a key attribute through the entire plan of making more meaning in life and those around us. Our health, safety, and financial needs must first be met before we can satisfy the needs of anyone around us.

Once that base need is met, we can look to those closest in our lives such as our families. This is our personal tribe. Our families, friends, and co-workers that we interact with on daily / weekly / monthly levels.

Beyond our closest family and friends comes our outer tribe. These are people that hear of us and find out about our work and purpose. As we look for more meaning in life, we begin to branch out and find ways to make moments of impact in lives of strangers and people we don’t know as well.

After generating more meaning in the lives of others we can begin to care more about the global level. This does not only pertain to the environment, but also all the human, animal, plant, and other consciousnesses on the planet.

Lastly, we can begin to see consciousness at an even higher level that permeates through the entire universe. Making more meaning at this level transcends time and space into all things material and non-material.

Step 1 – Start with your Purpose

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The first question we all must ask ourselves is – “What do we stand for?How do we discover our purpose?

When it comes to what you do for work, is that work aligned with a higher calling? Can you feel that you are able to make a difference on a level that is greater than yourself?

Begin to ask yourself – what is your vision of this “new earth consciousness?” Define what that vision is and ensure that no matter what walk of life you are earning income in, that you vision aligns with the work you do.

It is ok if your actual job doesn’t 100% align with your purpose or mission. But let me stress that it cannot be 100% out of alignment. For example, if you are passionate about helping others as I am, you can find ways to make impact in your current job. As long as that job involves working with others.

However, it would not make sense to work for an organization that is completely out of alignment from what you want to be known and recognized for. If this is the case, then it would behoove you to find a new place of employment or begin your own venture that aligns with more meaning and purpose in your life.

Step 2 – Recalibrate on how you View your Life

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After we have become crystal clear on what our purpose and mission in life is, then we can move onto recalibrating and watching the life film that is our own movie.

This step involves getting very clear on the details involving our life. For example, what do we say “yes” and “no” to? Who do we allow into our lives and what do we allow to command our time and attention?

Our very most important resource in life is time. Where we spend it and allow our attention to go becomes of the utmost importance at this step. When we are aiming to expand to our highest self, we must aim to “flow” with the universe and aspire to surrender to what comes into our life for good. Once our intentions are made clear around our purpose, the universe will bring those opportunities before our very eyes. We just have to be aware and say “yes” to those opportunities while saying “no” to what won’t serve us or our journey for more meaning.

By “recalibrating” we begin to “allow” more good to come to us. We shift out of the “controlling” mindset so many of us have been accustomed to. In this new mindset, we can begin to see the “micro-moments” of life as we make decisions to allow vs. control. We need not hit rock bottom as it is often believed in order to allow our lives to flow in unison with more meaning and purpose. The old belief of needing to hit your “low point” in life in order to see life differently isn’t necessary. We need only begin to catch ourselves in old habits of micromanaging and controlling others around us instead of allowing life to flow into and around us.

So if you find yourself wanting to have that “controlling” conversation with your family or coworkers, just notice the moment and settle back some. Get back into the “expansion” mindset over the “contraction” version that you may be used to.

Step 3 – Embody your Highest Self

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We don’t always get what we dream of, but we do get what we settle for. This third step is all about shifting your awareness to bring more abundance into your life.

People are beginning to realize what many for generations past didn’t – that time is not linear. We see ourselves living one day at a time, week at a time, month at a time, and years at a time. Yet, the information of our “highest self” and best self is available to us now.

We need not wish to know how we are living 5, 10, 0r 20 years from now – we can call for that insight into our lives now. It doesn’t take some long drawn out super focused meditation, but rather a simple genuine asking and expectation that our higher self embodies into our lives now.

After committing too and living with more meaning and purpose now, we can guarantee that our future self will be all the better for it.

We have the ability to “bend” time and space in order to access our higher self to help us live in “the now” or every present moment. All it requires is for us to geniuinly and compassionately receive this information.

What does this “higher version” of myself say? Who does this higher version of myself associate with and spend time around? What does this higher version of myself say “yes” and “no” too?

This ability embody your higher self is going to help you stay on track towards more meaning, a higher calling, and more purposeful intent in you life.

Step 4 – Redefine your “Minimum Standard” of Living

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Ever wonder why the “all seeing eye” is on the back of the U.S. $1 bill? While I’m not completely sure, maybe it has something to do with the worlds currency being tied back to the almighty dollar in some way. Perhaps it is on the back of the 1 dollar bill as this is the first of the paper currencies printed in the U.S. It is the minimum paper standard currency. You can have very few $1’s or very many. Most would like many of these!

Once we have tapped into our higher self and are living in alignment with more meaning, we can begin to work on our self-worth and net worth.

For so long in the old paradigm of the “old world consciousness,” it was – I provide a service and I get paid for that service. My “pay” is only identifiable with what my services provide. This old outdated thinking is beginning to shift.

Now, we can begin to shift our awareness towards the value we bring others dictating our net worth. As we aim to bring more service and value in the lives of others, we will continue to be rewarded for it.

As long as our hearts are in the right place that is. We cannot come from a place of greed. Doing so will not yield good results.

Tell yourself that you are fun of abundance. Make it a daily mantra. Write it down where you can see it. Repeat the phrase daily:

“I am abundant and receive more abundance daily.” You will find that as you serve the greater good with more meaning, you will be rewarded at your standard expectations.

If your minimum standard is “always just enough to get by,” that is what you are going to continue to receive. To serve the world with more meaning, you need more abundant resources.

Continually redefine your minimum standard of living.

Step 5 – Enact Leadership for More Meaning

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This last and final step is all about leading at authentic and genuine levels that encompassess more meaning and purpose in your life. It will be required of you since you only associate and operate at that frequency. You now know your truth and nothing can come between you and it. The world consciousness will vibrate and be in alignment with you.

You become your own currency. The vibrational frequency that you operate within brings you more abundance. Everything is now in alignment with more meaning and you purpose.

The world is full of noise and chaos right now. This is because the old paradigm is breaking down. How the world used to work and operate will end. A new operating system is being generated. This is what is causing the chaos. This chaos is actually a good thing. It is necessary for us to begin seeing the “old system” is no more.

What the world needs is more leaders that are aligned well with more meaning and a new “world consciousness.” The days of achieving more and more money to satisfy ones’s happiness are ending. We are waking up and realizing there is more to life.

The beauty in all this is we just need to continue leading at each appropriate level:

  • Self (personal)
  • Personal tribe (those closest to you)
  • Outer tribe (those you don’t know on collective level)
  • Global (Earth level)
  • Universal (All consciousness)

Don’t jump to another level before you take care of each sequentially. This process doesn’t allow for “skipping” layers. Check yourself in relationship to where you are in each of the above layers. Progress accordingly after ensuring you handle each layer. Lead well within alignment to your purpose at each level.

This is how you find more meaning at all levels of impact in your life and continue to live with more abundance.

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The Meaning of Living “Ungraduated”

As this blog continues onward and upward, I thought it might be helpful and beneficial to explain my definition of “ungraduated.” Yes, ungraduated is a made up word. It is a word that I have made up that beckons towards the search for truth and meaning. We live in a society that is very quick to tell us how to think, live, and believe. The meaning of living ungraduated is all about doing the work on oneself to remove so many of the limiting belief systems we operate within here in the modern world that often hold us back in life.

Living through your own Education

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From a young age, many of us are taught how to conform, rather than think. We are given a set of criteria that ranges from history and sciences, to health and the arts. Within that curriculum, we are neatly cast. Failure to see things as society has taught, might garner us a failing grade. So instead, we are taught how to pass tests on the material we are taught. We are not taught to rationalize and form our own conclusions, but rather ensure we are keeping to the programming we are given.

Now mind you, some of this programming is necessary for proper function within society. I am all for that. We need to understand basic math, reading, and social skills. But beyond that, much of what is spoon fed to our youth is largely perspectives from those that wrote the books and the teachers that teach them.

Education, in my opinion, should be about exploration and question gathering. That is what real learning is. Not sitting in a building all day being programmed so that we fit into a nice neat ball that plays well in society.

There is so much education we have been given, not all of it correct or good, that there is a great need to ungraduate from it. We are not taught in school about how to attain real happiness, meaning, or purpose. No, we are schooled on how best to produce and function within the man-made hamster wheel of modern society.

The Meaning of Finding your own Religion

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How much trouble can come from something that is supposed to be so good? The bloodshed over religion is one of the greatest embarrassments to the human name. My god is right, no MY god is right. Whatever god does exist certainly does not want us killing in its name, or it is likely not a god worth dying for.

For the most part, we have passed through the darker days in which people killed in the name of their religion. We are certainly not 100% past those days, but at least past the days of starting all out wars over it.

Instead, we now bicker, fight, and call each other bad names over social media or in close family quarters when we don’t agree about ones faith. Still a lot of work to be done, in my humble opinion.

How about this for a novel idea? We stop searching for which religion is right and make our own personal search of truth in faith. We have enough information available to guide us and help us make informed decisions.

This is for those that care to seek for the higher good. Enough to help us understand where our souls may inevitably be heading one day. For those that care not about a higher power – more power to you! It matters not to me. I’m confident enough that life is going to continue on after death. I’m not seeking to prove it to you when I know you will find out when your day comes.

The meaning of living ungraduated when it comes to religion is about doing your own work towards God. Whatever you feel God is, is up to you. It is how you find God that matters and not through the forced nature or threats of another human being.

Ungraduate to your own Politics

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Perhaps one of the more understood reasons of needing to ungraduate, might come from the political spectrum we live in today. What a complete and total disaster it has become.

We can hardly speak to another person that has an opposing political view.

The meaning of living ungraduated in terms of politics is completely putting yourself on a “human level.” It is not about red versus blue or how to better balance the budgets. Living in an ungraduated way in terms of politics is realizing that politics is more of a facade, designed to keep us in lower vibration. Right and left are two wings of the same bird.

Perhaps at one point in time, politics was about “for the people, by the people. But we are a long way away from that point in time. Yes, the world functions on politics, I completely understand that. We need politics in order to “get things done” in the current modality of the world. However, we need not allow politics to bring our level of vibration down.

Despite our differences, our commonality is that we are human. By undraduating from the political spectrum, you are choosing to ignore the political hatred and banter, yet still stay in tune with the world. You look at the world with love, compassion, and concern for its betterment. We may need to still vote in order to get action done, but we need not hate the other side that wins or loses.

Seeing the World in an Ungraduated Way

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To sum it all up – the meaning of living ungraduated is all about being curious. It is about asking the bigger questions in life and finding your own way rather than walking in the footsteps of others. It’s about removing limiting life belief systems.

When we stop asking questions and take everything at face value we begin to limit ourselves. The human mind is an amazing device when we use it rather than allowing it to be programmed.

What are some aspects of your life where you have become ungraduated? What new perspectives have you gained through being naturally curious? How have you become more of your authentic self?

Would love to hear as many perspectives as possible on the topic. There is so much in life that we need to seek answers for. We may not find them all, but starting with the bigger questions is how we begin to find our way, through our why – our purpose. It’s how we begin to truly define the meaning of living.

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Watch Your Own Movie

How much stress and life-struggle comes from watching other people’s movies? How often do you “watch your own movie?” We want what our friends have. Their social media posts seem better than ours. It seems their children are more well behaved than ours. Vacations they take are even more extravagant than ones we get to take. The constant daily grind often is perpetuated when we tune into the broadcast life of others around us. Peace, serenity, meaning, and happiness is brought to you through watching your own movie, not the movies of others.

But how do we steer clear of the traps of watching others movies so that we can maximize the lives we live?

Here are some tips and life hacks that you can implement to continue living as your authentic self, rather than envying those around you.

Get Comfortable in Your Own Skin

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Look, by now we’ve all heard about body shaming, confidence issues, and the like that force some people to look at others with envy.

Stopping this infectiously bad habit takes some rewiring of the mind. Start with these steps:

  • Assess yourself by your health – not your bodily figure
  • Depending on your physical fitness, decide what steps you need to take to be more fit
  • Set S.M.A.R.T goals (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, time-bound) physical health goals such as
    • walking / running at a certain pace
    • how much weight you want to be able to work out with
    • what is your cholesterol level and where should it be?
    • blood pressure and what target you should be at?

By using actual health and fitness goals, you begin to see yourself in a better light. Gauging yourself against how physically fit you should be for your age is far better than trying to pin yourself against others in terms of how they look versus you.

There is no telling how physically fit someone is that “looks attractive.” However, you working to become your best self health wise, will begin to add more confidence and security of mind. It will help you live as your more authentic self. This is just one step in watching your movie over the movies of others.

Discover Your Life Passions and Live Them

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So much in our lives comes from watching others. When are we going to jump into the water of life for ourselves?

We look to others that are living what we enjoy, yet often don’t believe we can do what they do.

What are your interests? How about your passions? Would you be doing something different in life if you could?

Make a list of all the things in life you love. Be as far reaching as you want. Here are a few that I am very passionate about:

  • Travel
  • Outdoors
  • Exercising
  • Writing
  • Reading
  • Life-Long Learning
  • Consciousness
  • Psychology
  • Philosophy

My list could go on quite while longer, but I think you get the point. If you are going to watch your own movie and not the movies of others, we must find a way to intertwine your life passions into purposeful intent within your daily life.

Discovering your purpose in life is where you begin to really entwine more meaning and excitement into your life. You begin to focus heavily on what it is you can do for yourself and others rather than wishing and hoping after what you see others do.

  • What does the world need that you love to do?
  • What are your passions and talents that you can bring to the work you do to serve those world needs?
  • Take these passions and talents and put them into practice in all you do!

Even if you aren’t 100% in the chosen career field you want, you can still bring your talents and strengths into your everyday job to begin living your purpose. Want to find purpose at work? Change your perceptions. This will give you more meaning and you’ll quickly find yourself watching your own movie, rather than hoping for a new job or career change.

Live and Be at Your Best

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Rest easy if you know you’ve done the very best you can.

I go to bed and sleep easy at night if I know I have any problem or life situation the best I had to give. When asking yourself that question honestly, only make adjustments if you know you could have put in more effort. If you know you gave the maximum output; rest easy.

Know and live by your values. Develop a code of conduct that you can live within. These are values you will not compromise and will look for in others you bring close in your life.

When you authentically live as your best self, it is far easier to live with and watch your movie over getting caught up watching the movies of others.

What it all boils down to is life is about YOU. Not those that you watch around you. What are you doing to live as your best most authentic self?

Are you living out your purpose and passions? How can we be better at this together? Would love to hear thoughts and comments as we aim to grow and achieve more together.

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Knowledge isn’t Power Until Acted Upon

Many of likely heard the phrase “knowledge is power.” But few realize the very important aspect of taking action. Therefore the truth in life to attaining your highest level of self, is understanding the proper formula. The fact is that once you have knowledge, you must take action and use that power. This is why knowledge isn’t power until acted upon. Knowledge + action = highest level of self.

Over my life I have been guilty of consuming and consuming more information and knowledge. And while that is great, it doesn’t do us much good if we don’t put that knowledge to good use.

Here are some tips that you can put in place around the mental, physical, personal, and professional aspects of your life to ensure you take proper action from the knowledge you consume.

Self-Care of Mind and Mental Abilities

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Chances are have all likely heard of mindfulness and meditation by this point in time. The benefits of each are astounding and can help us in profound ways both personally and professionally.

There is so much information out there are the benefits of mindfulness and meditation that is can be overwhelming. So gathering information on this topic isn’t hard. Applying it however sometimes can be challenging. How to practice mindfulness in small easy steps is the way to go. Don’t bite off so much information that you fall victim to paralysis by over-analysis.

You can begin with daily journaling. Start by either beginning to write out what you want to accomplish for the day, or end your day with thoughts of accomplishment. Being able to capture your thoughts on paper is one important aspect of realizing knowledge isn’t power. Taking the action of reflection certainly helps in regard to becoming more mindful.

And becoming more mindful is a great way to take action in regard to improving your overall mental health. It’s one of the most important aspects of self-care in my honest opinion.

Improving Your Physical Health

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There may actually be more information available on caring for physical health than there is for mental health. Regardless of which one is the winner here, we can likely agree at every turn we can find the latest health craze information. That never means we’re going to benefit and become more healthy from simply reading about the latest diet trends.

The best way to put our physical health knowledge into action is to find what we most enjoy doing. Are you a gym junky or an outdoor fanatic? Do you like accountability partners or would you prefer to hold yourself accountable? Do you need to change your diet or is it more about getting more active? These are questions we need to answer for ourselves before going to the next step.

Choosing to take action in our health is of supreme importance. We cannot serve the world or others without taking care of us first.

Once you decipher through the loads of information out there on health trends, decide on whether you are going to spend time on your physical health during the morning, afternoons, or evenings. Once you decide, stick to it.

Then, you can begin to find what type of exercising you most enjoy. Combine that exercise to your favorite activities. For example, if you enjoy Yoga but like being outdoors – easy – do Yoga outside. Same goes for running. We don’t need to bore down on a gym treadmill if we want to enjoy running outdoors. You can even do your weight lifting outside if that is what you prefer.

They key is find what works for you, and combine it with activities you enjoy. It will keep you far more motivated and ensure that you deliver on commitments.

Improving Personal Relationships

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Knowledge is certainly not power in the personal relationship aspect of our lives. So much information exists on relationships and how to improve them. It is absolutely incumbent upon us to take action and do our own work in this area if we want our relationships to improve.

There is a lot of great knowledge out there on “love languagesand what each of us prefer our partners to affirm for us. Once we understand each others love languages, it’s time to take action.

The key here is to really work this into our daily lives. The time we spend with our partners is critical to the overall happiness of the rest of our daily lives. If there is a problem at home, that problem will spill over into the other aspects of our mental, physical, and professional life. So this is a important one.

Begin with carving out one night each week to affirm your partner with their love language. If that is cuddling and watching TV, make one hour for that. Maybe it is affirming your appreciate for them and mentioning what one thing they did that you really appreciate about them.

Taking this simple and meaningful action will reap major rewards at home and ripple positive in all other aspects of your life.

Serving Yourself in Your Professional Life

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With all the Leadership books out there that exist it can be hard to decide where to begin in order to gain your edge in the professional world.

Start with looking for what it is that you personally need to grow with. Ask peers, direct reports, and even subordinates what it is they think you need more growth in. Then go seek out that information.

If you have a job or career that involves any travel, downloading the learning and taking it with it on travel time is a great way to digest it. There are many ways to invest in yourself in today’s highly technological society. If you work from home, you’ll need to be more diligent and perhaps plan in the listening on morning or evening walks. Or plan some old school reading for fifteen minutes before bed each night.

The key here is upon finishing what you have spent time on learning – put it into practice. Develop a presentation, share a recap, or simply begin putting your newfound practices into daily use. Show the people in your business around you that you care enough about your personal development path that you want to share your learnings with them.

This will go a long way for those in your professional life to begin to take notice that you are person of action.

Summary – Knowledge isn’t Power

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What this all boils down to is understanding we can consume and consume more information for the rest of our lives. We can think we are quite knowledgeable about many facets of life, but until we take action on what we learn we aren’t bettering ourselves.

What habits or activities have you learned over time that help you take action from the knowledge you gain in life? How have you seen these actions improve your quality of life?

Would love to hear from you and engage in the conversation…

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12 Lessons for Life and Leadership

What is it that matters most in life? Is it personal gain? What about recognition and status? When we sit back and ponder on what we want to achieve and attain in life, hopefully we think about the impact we make on others. This is where our truest moments of self-worth and accolades should be found. These 12 lessons for life and leadership will not only help you attain more, but also leave a lasting legacy.

1. Lead with Love

Leading with love will ensure that you begin and end each day with the right mindset. It is my personal belief that when we serve others, we gain back more in return. Therefore, upon leading with love and true care for others in the world helps keep us within the right frequency to gain the same back.

It sounds cliche, but who doesn’t want more love in their lives? Putting it out to those we interact with, even love and care for everyday strangers, it going to help you get back what you put out. And that is far better than the opposite effect.

2. Allow Leadership into Your Life

Who or what is guiding you?

Set up the mental construct for what you believe in and how you want to be lead. What is your purpose? How does that purpose guide you? Upon figuring out this important aspect of life, you can begin to look for more learning, teaching, knowledge, and leadership that can help you further round you into your best self.

This learning and leadership you gain then can be put into place into your life for greater impact for those around you.

3. Listen More than You Speak

The famous phrase – “we have two ears and one mouth for a reason” rings true here.

Don’t be so apt to jump into conversations with your opinions and validations. Rather, choose to speak with intent and purpose. Listen to conversations rather than trying to speak over them.

Upon practicing this “more listening and less talking technique” it also will hep others realize when you do speak up, it is going to have a lot of insight and meaning.

Resist always being the squeaky wheel and instead work to become the calm, collected, stoic; then when you speak, others truly will listen.

4. Keep Others Remembering their Essence

When you are true to yourself, it helps others become more true to their self. The saying of “Lead by Example” is the foundational principle here.

When we as leaders or people of purpose, vivaciously live our lives through meaning, others can’t help but take notice. Even those without their true “North Star” will want to find one.

Why not better others around you through keeping them honest about their truest purpose? Helping others in this manner truly generates great lessons for life and leadership.

5. Watch for Repetitions

When we are carefully looking for the patterns in life and how it unfolds, it helps us be better prepared for our futures.

Life happens in the ever present moment only, but through becoming watchful of the pendulum swings we can better anticipate challenges or ensure we don’t get too high in the positive momentums.

In all our lives, we’re going to experience the pendulum swinging – we need to be watchful and observant of it.

6. Live with Balance

Try your best to not do anything in excess.

Proper balance in life is important for any leader, entrepreneur, or purposeful individual. It is easy to get caught up in the excessiveness of life. This can be in things that are good for us like exercising or of course in the more negative aspects such as binge drinking to forget a stressful event.

Life is meant to be lived in balance. Even the earth, moon, and seasons move within the same balance. We need to live in accordance to a similar cadence. Nothing in excess – but enough of what we need. Enough work / enough time off. There is no trophy for who works the hardest or longest.

7. Reflect Often

How can we see where we are going if we haven’t paused to look at the path we’ve traveled?

Making time to reflect on your decisions, progress, failures, and victories is important. Reflection is what purposeful individuals do. It is a lesson for life and leadership that no one should do without.

Whether it be weekly, monthly, or quarterly, plan some time into your calendar for a day to go on a retreat. Make it just for you. Could be for a walk in the park, a hit in the mountains, or a trip to a new town just to sit at the cafe.

Whatever works for you, just ensure you make time for that reflection. It helps to write those moments down in a journal so they can be reflected back on through time. It will make you a better leader and individual and certainly is one of the most important lessons for life and leadership.

8. Be Aware of Your Emotions

Too often people feel they need to be the boulder that slams into the lake falling high from the cliff.

What comes of the individuals around you after those massive waves calm into ripples on the water? Even after the water is still again the emotional scars can remain.

Purposeful individuals and great leaders are aware of their emotions. They do their best to ensure they don’t rock the waters as they pass by. The waters of life can be choppy enough, why add more waves?

9. Be a “Net-Giver”

Ever meet those people that always take from you but never want to give? It can be your time they want, your money, your toys, or anything else. They want, want, want!

Don’t be that person! Be the person that shows up for others and asks how you can be of service. I promise you’ll find yourself happier and always receiving even more in return. It is universal law.

I don’t mean “over-give” either. Be respectful of your time, money, and resources. But with the right balance, aim first to give; rather than take from others.

10. Be Authentic and Transparent

Once you begin to live with purpose, it becomes easier to be authentically transparent.

Most human beings like to avoid confrontations, but it’s a fact of life. We are going to face them. Being truly genuine with others and having their best interests at heart means telling them the truth.

Once you get a few genuinely, transparent, and authentic conversations under your belt, it becomes easier. No person of purpose is going to go far in their goals without these lessons for life and leadership.

11. Rely on Great People and Systems

There is no easy way to accomplish all you want in life completely on your own.

You must attract, development, and retain great people around you if you are in leadership. And if you are simply battling to accomplish your own cause, it helps to have a great community and support system around you.

There is always power in numbers. Never try and go it alone.

12. “Done” is Better than “Perfect”

Finally, simply remembering that it’s better to get to the finish line without achieving your perfect record setting pace versus never crossing it at all.

Too many people in this world are “afraid to finish.” We consume ourselves with new projects and always looking for excuses to procrastinate or find reasons to not begin that new project.

Put it out into the world and just start. Then get it to completion. In most cases, whatever it is you are working on you can always make it better later. But you won’t have that finished project to edit or improve if you don’t start or finish it.

Commit to the process and see it through to fruition and completion and remember there are many reasons done is better than perfect.

Live Now – Become Your Best Self

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I hope this post helped jog some points of discovery and epiphanies for anyone that comes across it.

We are always a work in progress. The key is realizing that and putting in the effort for constant improvement.

What is it that you are working on in terms of becoming your best self? What lessons for life and leadership have you discovered that have been the best teachers for you? I’d love to hear from you and what it is that you are working on so we can continue to grow into the best human beings possible.

Keep working to Find your Way through your Why!

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The Amazing Pam Reynolds Actual Death Experience

Pam Reynolds was a songwriter and orchestrator. She lived in Atlanta and at the age of 35, she was diagnosed with a brain aneurysm. This aneurysm was a particularly challenging one to address as it was located in her brain stem near the base of her skull. There was one procedure that she was told gave her very little chance of survival, but that it was her only hope at continuing her life. To address the aneurysm, part of the skull is removed, including the base of the eye. This creates a space that allows access to the base of the skull. The body temperature was lowered to 60.8 degrees Fahrenheit. Her blood was then drained to allow the aneurysm to flatten out. Upon clipping the aneurysm, blood was then pumped back into her body as she was warmed back up. While the surgery was a success, Pam was conscious during the experience. The following description is from Pam Reynolds herself and describes her actual death experience.

Beginning Recollections

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Doctor Robert F. Spetzler performed the operation, but there were more people in that room than I would have ever guessed to be in an operating room. They cooled my body down and my heart stopped. My brain waves stopped functioning. They tilted the end of the gurney up and drained my blood, like oil from a car, into a heart lung machine. I’m told that’s what happened but, understand, I was not there when this was happening.

I had been put to sleep. Dr. Spetzler has since assured me that I was nearly comatose. There was no way that I could have heard or seen anything. My eyes were taped shut and my ears had speakers inserted in them making a loud clicking sound. These speakers were used to monitor the response of my brain. Nonetheless, I began to hear a tone. It was guttural, it was unpleasant, I did not like it. It drew my consciousness like water from a well. And having done that, I sort of popped out of my head to see what this horrific noise was.

At first my vantage point was rather like sitting on the shoulder of the surgeon. In his hand, I saw the instrument that was making the offensive noise. I have heard the word “saw” all my life – my father used a saw, my grandfather used a saw, brain surgeons use saws. I had assumed they were going to open the skull with a saw. But this was no saw. This think was held more like a pencil. It looked like a drill and actually reminded me of an electric toothbrush.

This was the thing that was causing the noise that disturbed my very, very, very, deep slumber.

An Out of Body Experience like None Other

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Out of body experience

The feeling of exiting the body was incredible. I’ve never weighted five hundred pounds, but if was as if I had and just lost all the weight. I could move around at will. My thought process took me where I wanted to go. I felt no pain, no more suffering, no more fear. I was free to wander around, at will, unobstructed.

I heard a female voice describing that my arteries and veins were too small. I thought they may be working in the wrong areas since they were doing brain surgery. Out of concern I tried to communicate with the female but she could not hear me.

It was indescribable but beautiful to know that I was no longer part of that thing lying on the operating table. “I” was outside of my body.

I began to sense a presence. The feeling was rather like having someone looking over your shoulder and yet there being no-one in the room. I turned around to look at it and instead of seeing a person, I saw a very tiny pinpoint of light. As I started focusing on the light, it started to pull me and the pulling had physical sensation with it. It was like from my tummy, going over a hill real fast. The closer I got to the light, the better I could see and discern figures.

The first figure I knew was my grandmother. I heard her voice calling me. But it wasn’t a voice made of vocal cords, it was something different. There were so many people there, many I knew, many I did not know, but somehow I knew I was connected to them. I didn’t know how I knew this, but I knew.

The people were wearing light, they seemed to be made of light. The ones I recognized, it’s as if there had never been a separation between us. There was love, warmth, and protection and I felt all of it.

I then saw my uncle, who had passed away at the age of thirty nine. He didn’t use his mouth to communicate. He did it in another way that I remembered from my early childhood. He had the look. He would look at me and I would understand. It didn’t take long to understand that this was how everyone here communicated.

I asked my grandmother regarding the nature of the light. My communication to her was, “Is the light God?” and there was great laughter and she said, “No, sweetheart, the light is not God. The light is what happens when God breaths.” That was the communication.

The landscape was nonexistent. It was as if the bodies were floating tin midair. There was light and shadow, but it didn’t seem to fall on anything. That’s what convinced me that I probably was not in “heaven.” It had colors like you wouldn’t believe. I was probably in an “in-between” place. Perhaps I was on some sort of bridge on the way, because, let us not forget, they would not let me into that light.

I became concerned as to whether or not I was really there. I looked at my own hands and held them up to my face. I saw something, I knew I was there, I could feel “me.” The odd thing was, I didn’t feel so very different than I feel here. And yet, there was no density in the flesh, but still, I held them up to my face to secure the knowledge that I was there.

There came a time that I knew I had to return to the body. My uncle was going to take me and that was fine. I was okay with that, until I saw the thing and I was not at all pleased. He told me, “Think about your favorite food…Won’t you miss your children?” And then he told me, “It’s like jumping in a swimming pool, baby. Just jump.” I looked down and saw the body jump with the first defibrillation. I definitely did not want to get in the thing then, because, to be honest with you, it looked like what it was — dead. I knew it would hurt. My response to him was – no. So then he pushed me.

I hit the body at the second defibrillation of the heart, and there I was alive and somewhat uncomfortable. Getting back into the body was kind of like jumping into a pool of ice water. It was shocking. I could feel the shock and it was very unpleasant.

I woke up in the operating room and was told I wasn’t supposed to wake up until I was in the recovery room.

Validating the Out of Body Experience

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near death experience of Pam Reynolds

Afterward, Dr. Spetzler listened very closely to everything I said to him. On the following day, he very firmly explained to me that, beyond a shadow of a doubt, this was not a hallucination. He told me that what I described actually occurred. For example, they had to defibrillate me twice.

The voice I had heard was indeed female, and later my doctors introduced me to her. She was the head of the cardiovascular team and she was doing a “cutdown.” this is the methodology by which they drew the blood from my body.

I was able to eventually see the Midas Rex bone saw and indeed it did look like an electric toothbrush.

I was a believer when I left the hospital and I wasn’t the only one. There were several staff members there who said I wasn’t the only case they had seen that was unusual in this regard.

I know that consciousness survives the death of the physical body because I’ve had that experience personally. Beyond that, I cannot, in truth, know anything. In my opinion, what happened to me is evidence of an afterlife.

Having had this near death experience, I no longer fear death. I fear separation. I thought at first that I wouldn’t even fear separation, but there is no experience that makes the separation okay when you lose someone. But when my time comes, I will embrace death.

I find it extremely interesting that others from all over the planet, regardless of culture, religious bias, or political lean defy coincidence by reporting the same basic elements with their near death experiences.

Do Your Own Research – Form Your Own Conclusion

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There are thousands and thousands of documented cases surrounding that of out of body, near death experiences, and actual death experience.

This blog post was generated from an amazing read that I am involved in titled, “Surviving Death – A Journalist Investigates Evidence for an Afterlife.” This book by Leslie Kean is full of incredible stories and is masterfully written.

She gives both sides to the arguments of consciousness and what happens before and after death. Actual death experiences are examined as well as cases of real life examples of reincarnation.

The soul and spirt that embodies us within the physical reality we call life deserves to be studied. Science likes to have concrete and absolute proof of existence so within these cases it is often difficult to lay claims to truth.

But there is documented proof out there if we want to find it. The evidence is mounting more and more. We can choose to deny these facts and turn a blind eye, or lean into the possibilities and form our own conclusions.

It may not take an actual death experience for us to discover more evidence. There are ways for us to work to discover the power of out of body experiences through focus, mental work, meditation, and other practices. I know this borders on the lines of speculation, but there are people out there who absolutely know that we continue life after death due to their experiences.

I am one of those people. Perhaps at a later point in time I will tell my story here in my blog posts. For me, it wasn’t an actual death experience, but rather the practice of daily focus and effort to experience an out of body experience. Upon that successful completion, my life was also forever changed.

My reason for being became clear – and I had to begin sharing my life experiences in hopes that others may benefit.

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What are your thoughts, questions, or even experiences around all this? I would love to have you engage in the conversation.

To me, these are some of the most fascinating questions that we should be exploring in life.

My search for truth will never cease, and I welcome you all along for the ride with me.

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