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Opening Communication to Spirit Guides

There can be a lot of mystery, confusion, and complexity surrounding the understanding of the Holy Spirit and spirit guides. Human kind has a tendency to complicate these types of spiritual understandings. Our ego can get involved around what we believe to right or true and then there is the religious dogma that often surrounds the topic. I am here to tell you that we need to stop complicating the process. Opening communication to the Holy Spirit or our spirit guides is not a complex process. However, it does involve doing some inner reflection and work around mindset to clear the mind and make space for the channels we need to “see” or “feel” our guidance. Here is how to go about that process:

Just breathe to begin opening the channels

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The first tactic is to pause through the day and bring awareness to your breath. That’s right — just breathe. Pause in your daily routine throughout the day and notice your breath. Many of us don’t breath properly.

Our autonomic nervous system, which controls automatic functions like heart rate and digestion, is split into two parts. The sympathetic nervous system, controls our fight-or-flight response. The other, the parasympathetic nervous system, controls our rest-and-relax response. 

While both parts of our nervous systems are always functioning, deep breathing can help quiet our sympathetic nervous system and therefore reduce feelings of stress or anxiety. This helps quiet the monkey mind.

Proper breathing involves deep breathing down into the belly. Many of us breathe shallowly only into our chests, only partially filling our lungs. Focusing on our breathing is the first way to begin opening communication to higher sources and channels.

Quiet the mind to begin opening communication

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Human kind has been programmed to get caught up in the rat race. We have our constant mind chatter or “monkey mind.” There are ways to calm and quiet this monkey mind. Here are some of the best practices that work for me:

  • Get outside and into nature no matter the season or time of year
  • Practice taking pause and reflection in your life
  • Meditate (can be walking meditations or other variations)
  • Give gratitude at the beginning and end of each day
  • Journaling throughout each day or week

Do not allow the many misconceptions around meditation to deter you. Simply becoming present is becoming mindfully aware. It is a form of meditation. So many people get caught up in the thinking that meditation and mindfulness must be conducted in certain ways. As a result, people get frustrated and give up far too soon on the mindset and practice.

There benefits abound when becoming aware of the present moment in your life. Quieting the mind is one of the most important aspects when it comes to opening communication to our spirit guides.

Opening communication – seeing is believing

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Once we have calmed the mind, the real fun of opening communication to our spirt guides can begin. In addition, life takes on new meaning. We begin to feel guided and can use our intuition.

Be it through daily intention, meditations, or prayer — we can ask for guidance and begin receiving it. Moreover, we can really begin to empower our life and purpose.

Communication from our guides comes in a variety of forms:

  • Signs (i.e. serendipitous moments brought before you
  • Repeating numbers
  • Songs
  • Electronics
  • Movies / Documentaries
  • Dreams

These are just a few of the many different ways that our higher selves communicate to us here in the physical realm. In other words, however we most typically prefer our communication, we begin to see it. In addition, the more we see this communication, the more our guides will give it to us.

The key here is to open yourself up to these possibilities. How many times have you seen coincidences occur in your life that you chalk up to dumb luck? Chances are this is the universe, our spirt guides, the Holy Spirit, or our Higher Selves at work communicating with us. There can only be so many coincidences in our lives until they become mathematically improbable.

Holy Spirt vs. Spirit Guides

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During my upbringing the Holy Spirit or Holy Ghost has been depicted as a white dove or bird in flight upwards toward heaven. This was the image I was given as a child. It never really quite resonated with me, and perhaps that was for good reason as it has forever made me seek more answers.

When I think of the term “Holy Spirit,” what comes to mind for me is an energetic connection to our Source, the Devine, God, or the Universe. It is the connection that is available for all of humankind if we apply ourselves towards it.

Some religious teachings tailor this meaning towards their own beliefs. Most often in the Christian teachings, it is used for connection through Christ and then God. In other words, it is opening up oneself to higher powers that exist beyond the physical realm of existence.

It is in my experience that I have come to the understanding that this connection is granted to us all if we simply open ourselves up to it. We all can connect to higher planes of existence or lower planes of existence. That is to say, “good” and “evil.”

Our spirit guides are simply other vessels that can attune us to these higher places of communication. In my study and through my own interpretation, spirit guides work alongside the Holy Spirit to connect us to our highest places of meaning and purpose. For instance, spirit guides may very well be our guardian angels and visa versa.

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Making your own Lane in Life

What is your purpose? Do you know what you are passionate about in life? Have you ever questioned what your reason for being in life is? Whose highways in life are you traveling on? Are they your roads that you are paving or the highways of others through which you aren’t even sure where they are taking you? Living life on your terms is about making your own lane in life. It’s about marching to your beat of your own drum. But how do you align the wheels of life to take you towards the proper destinations?

Recently, Ben Killoy, the founder of “Military Veteran Dad” and “The Business of Fatherhood,” had this very meaningful and purpose-filled conversation. What legacy will you leave in life? Whom will you have impacted? How will they describe the life you lived? These are important questions in life that are worth taking the time to frame up, so that we can live with more intent.

Being “seen” while making your own lane

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That voice inside your head – how often to you listen to it? It says things like:

  • Stay Safe
  • Don’t get outside your comfort zone
  • Remember what happened the last time you tried that?
  • You may get hurt

Our reptilian, base part of our brains contains our ego – the voice in our heads that is trying to keep us safe and inside our comfort zone. The problem with this voice – if you listen, making your own lane in life becomes quite difficult.

The ego isn’t only responsible for that pompous, loud, outspoken personality within us. It’s restricting us to keep us protected and safe, meaning it doesn’t want us getting out of our comfort zone.

It’s also that voice saying, hey, just stay safe. Stay in your lane. Don’t get too crazy out there in this thing we call life. If we always listen to that voice of caution inside our heads, then it wins and it doesn’t have to worry about change.

Become the watcher of your thoughts

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The first thing you have to acknowledge is that you have prescription beer goggles on, and that prescription is tied to how your life has happened. Every lens you look through is from your own perspective in life. It can be challenging to truly see how filtered your view is because you can’t take them off, but you can begin to become the watcher of your own thought.

This is where breakthroughs can occur. Think of a compass with two needles; one labeled fear, the other one labeled curiosity. When those two needles intersect in your life, lean in – run towards that direction. That is where you likely need to apply more attention, learning, and growth.

Fear as we know it in this modern day life isn’t like fear of the past – in most cases. More often than not, fear in our lives today is simply another way the ego keeps us held back, safe in our comfort zones. And curiosity is always a great place to pay attention to aspects within your life. Where do you have curiosity and some fear? Pay attention to those thoughts because chances are it’s a great compass for where you need to be making your own lanes in life and chasing your dreams. Your curiosity is the breadcrumb that will lead you to your purpose and passion.

Seeing your highway in life open up

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The difference between carbon and diamonds is the pressure. The more pressure you apply, the more beauty that is created out of coal. Life is like this too. It is often said that God or the universe places opportunities on your heart or in front of your life. It’s simply up to you to recognize these signs take the first steps on those aspects of your life. Action is what tells the universe that you are serious about generating more meaning and purpose in life.

All of us are here in this physical playground we call life for a reason. When we show up and “do the work,” God or the universe rewards us for taking that action. More opportunities and a means to complete those opportunities shows up within our lives. Then we are left with more choices to take – more highways of chance and new opportunity open up for us.

How much pressure we apply to these challenges and purposeful opportunity will dictate how much success that comes from it. How beautiful will your “diamond of life” become? That depends on how much focus and pressure you’re willing to apply to it.

This is part of the “ungraduation process.” It is part of discovering our truest version of ourselves and living our lives through more rewarding meaning and purpose.

This is how your highways in life will open up for you. Soon you’ll find that you will be making your own lane in life and living more through your purpose over the aspects of what others deem important. And that is truly what life is about…

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Giving Gratitude this Thanksgiving

As Ungraduated Living & Learning nears its one year launch anniversary, there are many items worth reflecting upon and giving gratitude for. For starters, let’s begin with the fact that less than 20% of podcasts that are launched make it into the following year of production. We’re coming up on our 1 year anniversary in just a few months and the listener base continues to grow.

The momentum won’t be slowing anytime soon. Actually, we’re planning quite a few changes that are aimed at making the community more engaging.

Launching our online community

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Coming by years end or early in 2022 will be an online community. This is where interested life-long learners can come together to share learnings, best practices, and ideas among each other.

Many people in today’s world crave companionship and in a community of learning and personal development, this is no different. As we all work to continue our ungraduation from societal programming towards our own empowerment; having a group of like-minded people alongside you can be beneficial.

Within our online community, the following can be expected:

  • daily motivational messages
  • sharing of individual wins and success stories
  • group accountability for anyone looking for help in their goals
  • resources for further learning (books / documentaries)
  • opportunities for networking and connection

Have your voice heard on Ungraduated Living & Learning

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A new feature that has been added to the website is a voicemail system. Go to ungraduated.com/podcast and leave the show a question, suggestion, or other comment about what you are listening too.

As we move through time, we’ll be tossing out monthly questions for listeners to leave their thoughts on. These messages will be played on the show and commented on.

It’s a great way to have your voice heard and become an active member of the podcast. So, don’t be shy and head on over to ungraduated.com/podcast and record your message right there from you phone or device. Let’s see who’s got some burning questions on their mind about their own self-development or the challenges they are working through in their own personal journeys.

This is your chance to take part in the show so let’s get interactive! I want to hear your voice!

Book Launch 2/22/22

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My first book, “Ungraduated” – Finding your why through dropping out of outdated belief systems, is set to launch on February 22nd, 2022.

The book is meant to be a step by step learning guide that opens the readers eyes to the understandings of Universal Law and how to use those principles to better your life, health, happiness, purpose, and overall success.

After all – more and more people are realizing that life isn’t in their hands, it really truly is mostly in their heads. And framing up the right belief system and mindset is more than half the battle when it comes to winning at life.

The template is written within this book to open up the eyes of the reader to the infinite amount of possibilities at their disposal. Once the journey begins, the only mistake is not seeing it all the way through to the end.

With the launch of the book, I will personally be seeking the help and support of a book launch team. The goal of this special group will be to help generate awareness around the book upon its launch. Should you have any interest in helping support this cause, please feel free to reach out to me via my website, ungraduated.com/contact and leave a comment.

There will be some swag and free books for those that are interested and become active participants during the book launch.

Giving gratitude in my life

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Outside of these ventures within the growing community platform that is Ungraduated Living & Learning, I have many other aspects of life to be grateful for. Giving thanks can actually make you happier in life. So why not take every opportunity for giving gratitude in our lives? Here are just a few more aspects of my life that I am fully grateful for:

  • A wonderful wife that supports me through all my endevors
  • Family that I never stop trying to help support, teach, and grow
  • My 3 fur babies that never cease to amaze me with their enduring love
  • Overall good health and vitality
  • The fact that we can engage in deep dialog and conversation
  • Abundance in life (never wanting / needing)
  • The life experiences that have crafted who I am…
  • My personal awakening that has me craving more learning and growth
  • A great career that has taught me more about life than I ever realized
  • Having a platform that enables me to share and spark thought

So what is it that you are most thankful in life? Undoubtably there are aspects of your life that you want to / need to give thanks for. I would love to hear from you!

Feel free to leave a comment here, or go over to ungraduated.com/podcast and leave a message for me there. You just may even hear it played on the show! Certainly if you don’t want it aired, just let me know that too as I’ll always respect privacy.

Whatever you are thankful for this thanksgiving of 2021, I hope that you reflect upon it sincerely. For there is no greater way than to get more of what you want in life, through staying deeply connected to what you cherish most. Giving gratitude is a surefire way to continue getting more of what you hold most dear to your heart.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Discovering Happiness and Success in Life

Do you want to be happy, really happy? There are so many different tools and processes that can be taught. When we really open our eyes and hearts, we can truly begin to see some life transformation. This is where discovering happiness and success in life takes on new meaning.

We need to clarify what matters the most to you in your life, and then align with those things so that every single day is more joyful and fulfilling. Just figuring out what you want your life to look like and feel like isn’t quite enough to get you there.

We have to clean up relationships with ourselves. With all the programming and social indoctrination we face in life, there’s so much stuff that isn’t our weight to bare. We are weighed down by that excess baggage. What is necessary is to learn how to connect back into ourselves. Listen to what our voice is actually saying, instead of all the other voices.

Once we do that, then we can begin to see the science behind happiness. How our brains are wired and why have they sometimes sabotage us and what to look out for and what are the actual habits and actions of happiness? We can do self discovery work and turn inward all day long, but it won’t necessarily get us feeling good in life unless we take certain actions.

Taking action towards happiness

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Our human playground isn’t always meant to be easy. But it’s rewarding for people who dive deep turn inward and try to look for the answers. That’s what I think we’re here to do on this planet, which is why we chose to come here. All our life experiences have helped shape what we are and have become to this point in life.

A lot of people are just very comfortable being told what to do and being told what to believe. It feels safe for them. And then there are people who desperately desire to figure it out for themselves.

So I say, just start right where you’re at. Start by asking yourself some questions and you begin paying attention to actually how you’re thinking to yourself. What story are you telling yourself? Have you been thinking kind thoughts about yourself and your life, or are you thinking hurtful thoughts?

Pausing to become the watcher of your thoughts, you will begin to be able to see if you are taking action towards happiness or towards more despair.

How are you showing up for the world?

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How do you show up in the world? Who do you want to show up as? As we continue to work on ourselves internally, we begin to rise in vibration. We will find ourselves discovering happiness and success as more of the things that drive our happiness and success begin to show up for us.

This works very much in the opposite as well. Happiness and success will evade us if we are not properly aligned with the appropriate frequencies.

How we show up for others around us begins to reciprocate itself through karmic balances. When we lead with love, care, and genuine gratitude; more of those aspects of life materialize in our lives. When we show up within jealousy, greed, and desire for materialistic gains; we will continue to receive more of the same reasons to keep ourselves in these lower level vibrational frequencies.

Happiness and success through relationships

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Each of us vibrate frequencies like little individual cell phone towers. What we put out, we get back. This is the energy of life.

As we work on ourselves and raise our vibrational frequencies, sometimes people in our lives fall off. This can often make us feel lonely. What we need to realize is that new higher level frequency individuals will make their way into our lives.

You can describe it as serendipity or synchronicity. However you describe it, this is the way of spiritual awakening and doing the internal work. As your consciousness rises, so will your opportunities and what the universe puts in front of you to act on.

Discovering happiness and success in life really does come down to rewiring your mental frequencies. Soon, with the proper re-coding, you find yourself having far less anxiety and stress in your life.

And this is the beginning towards discovering happiness and success in life.

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Defining Your Personal Brand

Many people in life claim to live as their authentic self, but what does that actually mean? Why does it matter? Should you even care how others view you? Absolutely YES! Don’t be the person that claims not to care how others view you. Defining your personal brand and living it authentically each day will bring more opportunities that you align with into your life. More opportunities leads to more purpose and fulfillment, which then brings more happiness into your life. Here is a step by step guide to help you build and set your normal operating standards of life.

What do you get Fired up for in Life?

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Chances are all of us have passions in life that drive us. Draw a line down the center of a piece of paper and write down all the different things in life that you love and care deeply for. On the other side of that paper, write all the things in the world that you’d like to see improved. When it comes to defining your personal brand, this first step is important.

You need to get very specific about what it is in life you want to stand for. For example, as I was defining my purpose, I knew very quickly that I wanted to make a difference for others. What I didn’t exactly always know was the how. It’s one thing to always be kind, generous, and overall a good human being – but how do you actually make a difference in the lives of others?

Look at the two columns and begin to circle the aspects you care mostly about and what to see the biggest areas of improvement in. These will become your “North Stars.” This will become your first step in defining your personal brand.

Embody all of your Passions Daily

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Like filling a glass completely full, you need to become these passions. How much will you fill your cup? The simple answer – until it is overflowing so that you are impacting others around you.

I’ll give you an example; I am deeply passionate about getting people to think bigger, reflect, pause, and seek answers to some of life’s greatest questions. So – I embody this daily. At every opportunity, I ask people about their lives. What fascinates them? Are there avenues of life that they desire more answers in? If they could find solutions to life problems, what answers would they need?

Simply getting into that modality everyday helps me embody these “higher-seeking” aspects into my daily life. I have become “these things.” This will be what I am forever. Not a day goes by that I don’t think these perspectives and try to get others to tag along for the ride.

So – become your passions. Allow them to overflow into others. Don’t be pushy about it, just “authentically you.” Meaning, at appropriate times, give people your best around what it is that you are passionate about in life.

Defining the Values for your Personal Brand

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While there are many different tools available to take you step by step through defining your personal brand, I feel there are none more important than developing your values system.

These values will decide what you say “yes” to in life, and when you say “no.” They will become your “personal set of operating system values.” They will help guide you, mold you, and transform you more into defining your personal brand.

Here are a few of mine:

  • Live with humility
  • Always seek to be curious first, and critical second
  • Live with gratitude daily
  • Be a net-giver over a net-taker
  • Live with Abundance in mind

You get to have fun with this process. As you work through the list, keep the following in mind:Consider the people you most admire.

  • Consider the people you value and admire most
  • Think of your personal life experiences
  • Take note of any reassuring themes
  • Capture your top core values

You can have a list anywhere from three to ten or more if you desire. As you discover and choose your core values, you are taking steps towards living and defining your personal brand.

Print and post the list! Laminate it or shrink it down to a pocket sized pamphlet that you can carry with you each day in your pocket. Refer to them as often as necessary.

Like will Attract Like in your Personal Brand

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Soon you will begin to take notice that the people in your life that don’t serve you fall out. Then more of the right people you need in your life come into it.

That is the beauty of framing up and defining your personal brand. Putting some time, energy, and thought into this sets up your mainframe and helps guide you into life’s greater purposes for you. You become more aligned and can live more authentically as yourself.

Confidence grows as more and more opportunities come your way. Your life begins to take on new meaning. Suddenly, this new found zest for life leads you to more and more abundance.

This is just once example of “doing the work.” Take the time to set up this “operating system” of a personal brand that defines you.

It will keep you guided along the way as you march ever more fervently towards your North Star.

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Defining your Personal Values for Life

We are all a work in progress. Learning and growing is a constant part of our life journey, unless we choose it not to be so. Even then, we will still face hardships and they will be even more painful without self-awareness. The universe is never going to stop giving us what we need for growth. Defining your personal values in life helps frame up how you choose to live, learn, develop, and become your best self.

We all have a choice in how we craft and co-create our lives. I choose to be as proactive as possible and always looking for the best and most positive ways to live so that I can grow and help those around me become their best selves possible.

These are my guidelines that I have defined for my life. My code, my ethics, my beliefs, my truths. It is my desire that they help you in defining your personal values for life success:

1. Remain Close to the Great Spirit “The All”

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No matter what word you have for “God” put that first in life. I know, most people that have any spiritual sense usually say that God is first in their life. But what does that mean?

To me, it is staying close and connected with that energy. Beginning and ending each day with thanks and gratitude. Be it through meditation, prayer, or focused thought; continue to stay close to your higher self. We are still connected to our Source whether we realize it or not.

2. Treat the Earth and all that Dwell therein with Respect

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To me, this means all creatures that dwell on earth. All mammals, plantlike, and human life. We are all connected and a part of the whole.

How we treat each other becomes a representation of how you feel about yourself.

Being kind to all things matters. Putting out love for others over distain. Despite our many differences, we are one human species.

We cannot evolve consciously until we begin to understand this connectedness to all things.

3. Respect all others while Defining your Personal Values

Once we begin to see the world with new eyes, it should be easier to see our fellow brethren in the same ways as well.

Defining your personal values means appreciating everyone for their unique views and perspectives.

Our ego tries to trick us into believing our ways is right. Within ego mastery, we begin to see that we don’t need to always prove our way right. The universe balances all things – even our opinions for a reason.

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4. W0rk Together for the Betterment of all Humankind

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Upon seeing each other as equals despite our many unique perspectives and life situations, we can begin to evolve consciously.

This is the next great evolutionary shift in humankind.

Until we all are no longer suffering, we as a human species are going to have a harder time as a collective moving forward.

While we can’t solve all issues for all people on this planet, we can still certainly approach all others through leading with love.

The more people that choose to live this way brings us closer to spiritual enlightenment as a human collective.

5. Give Assistance and Kindness wherever Needed

This is about the simple things. Smile more often, hold open doors for others, never pass a stranger in need without helping in a small way.

When we lead with kindness, we not only feel better ourselves, we also set the example for others.

It becomes infectious. You will be happier. Being kind helps release a true level of serotonin and dopamine in the brain.

It literally makes you feel better and goes a long way in making a difference for others. So why not incorporate this behavior in your life?

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6. Do what I Know to be Right while Defining your Personal Values

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When you are aligned with your higher self or “The Devine,” you begin to intuitively know what is right. It becomes a “solid knowing” that you can feel in your body.

This is how you know what your truth is and what is right. This applies to you. It may not apply to everyone. Truth does not need to be all encompassing. What matters for you may not matter for all.

7. Look After the Well-Being of my Mind & Body

We all have a reason for being. That purpose in life requires that we take great care of our mind, body, and soul.

We cannot achieve our purpose in life if we don’t care for our mind and body.

Making time for daily exercise and time for pause and reflection helps us within this area of life.

Taking good care of the physical vessels we have carrying around our spirits and souls is a wise way to ensure that we keep the connection to our source at an optimum level for guidance and intuition.

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8. Dedicate a Share of my Efforts to the Greater Good

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Our circle of influences are often greater than we often realize in life.

As you define your purpose in life, you should always aim to use it in defining your personal values.

In defining those values, how do you aim to use your purpose towards the greater good?

We all have attributes that we can use that are our strengths. What strengths are you using to help those around you in life?

Lean into your best self and use those characteristics and skills to bring joy, value, and overall goodness to those in your circle of influence.

9. Be Truthful and Honest at all Times when Defining your Personal Values

Once you know your truth it is easy to live as your authentic self. Feel the power within that lifestyle.

Always come from a place of authenticity and speak your truth. Never be afraid of it or how it may be received.

Always remember however, your truth need not be the truth for everyone. However, stay true to yourself and what your represent in all things.

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10. Take Full Responsibility for My Actions

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Realize always that no one else is accountable for your life than you. Every choice you’ve made has led you to this point in life. Each choice of the future will generate your future self.

The present moment is all we ever have and what we do in each of our present moments dictates our final outcomes.

In all ways, for all you do – take full responsibility and OWN IT.

I am a work in progress…we all are…

Most of us want to be our best selves, in our own ways, at our own times. We have different ways of defining our life principles and can do so in whatever ways feel right for ourselves.

How did this resonate with you? Feel free to leave a comment and share any life value that I may not have listed that is a major part of your life.

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Living an Independent Life and Thriving

Most unhappiness and despair in our lives comes from dependency. Dependency upon society, money, technology, the system, religion, etc. Think about how it would feel in life to truly be living an independent life free of these things? How empowering and enlightening it would be! The truest way to live this life is to release ourselves of the many dependencies that we believe we have to have in life. There are ways out of the rat race…and into real independency! Here is a template, courtesy of a recent excellent book I’ve read titled – “How to Live,” by Derek Sivers.

Be “of society” but not “in society”

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All too often we feel the need to jump into the latest trends, arguments, and other aspects that society loves to throw in our face. We even think that all these events, trends, and personalities are real. However, the fact is – these are all false realities. They are “perceived importances” from the controllers and influencers of life.

Much of the drama in our lives are self-perpetuated. In the book, Derek Sivers states that “most problems are interpersonal.” Meaning that much of what we see placed before I eyes and ears is “interpersonal drama.”

News, politics, celebrity gossip, social trends, etc – it’s all interpersonal drama. When you really step back and look, you can see this for what it is. None of these things are “real.” They are fabrications of life and what others want us to react too.

I think of one of Morpheus’s great lines in the blockbuster movie “The Matrix.” There is scene in which Neo has unplugged from the matrix and is grappling with the lies he believed were real. He tells Morpheus that “it felt so real.” Morpheus responds with:

“What is real? How do you define real? If you’re talking about what you can hear, what you can smell, taste and feel then real is simply electrical signals interpreted by your brain.”

Let’s dive deeper…

Living an independent life without labels

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We are so accustomed to receiving and giving labels to many aspects of our lives:

  • political labels
  • career positions & titles
  • rich vs poor
  • religious titles & affiliations

The list goes on and on. The truth when you really peel back the layers is that none of these things are “real.” Yes, we operate and function within “labels.” It isn’t easy to function without classifying certain aspects of our lives. However, living an independent life and thriving is about shifting our mindsets in order to generate this “independence.”

Staying out of opinions, political stances, and other hysteria on social media can truly foster healthier minds. This isn’t to say that we can’t or shouldn’t have opinions, but rather avoid the pull of the ego to defend our stances.

Learn to become as self-reliant as possible

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The main point of living an independent life is to develop sustainability on your own. This might very well be the hardest part for most people.

Becoming independent must entail realizing 100% accountability for y0u. This means that there is no one person responsible for you, outside of you. No one owes you anything and you don’t owe others.

Becoming truly free requires self-mastery. Rid yourself of habits and dependencies. Realizing that nothing has control over you is a powerful epiphany. Learn to try new things and quit routines. Keep your life as fresh and full of new experiences as possible. If you change how you live, you change your entire universe of experiences and outcomes.

As much as possible in your business life, own your own rights and materials. Buy domain names and try and run your websites on your own servers. Never rely too heavily on complete 3rd party social media. You just never know when these things may not be around one day.

The unexamined life isn’t worth living

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So step back, reflect, and examine your life. How “FREE” are you truly? Living an independent life in this complex world is achievable. You just have to reframe your perspective.

Happiness, success, and true meaning will follow…

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Learn how to Transcend Time and Space

If you only had more time…This is a statement that many in the world utter day to day. But it is a myth! If I told you that all of us can learn how to transcend time and put ourselves in control of the ticking of the clock – would you believe me? The fact is we are the controllers of our own time. Many of us don’t see life this way and often use phrases such as:

  • I’m too busy
  • I wish I had more time in a day
  • Time is never on my side
  • This is going to take me forever
  • I’m always running late due to all I have to accomplish

I’m here to tell you that through some mindset shifts, you really can become your own arbiter over your day and put your life and time to work for you, rather than having it control you.

Stop Allowing Society to Dictate Your Time

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In much of the world and society today, time rules us all.  We are bound by it at such an early age that it becomes a normal aspect of our lives as we reach grow through our adolescence and into adulthood.  We think about time in a way that is always fleeting and stealing our attention away from what we believe we value most.

In today’s Time Trap we believe we don’t have time to be creative, spend quality time with our loved ones, to be loved, as well as get all of the things we need to get complete, done. In essence, we feel we’ve been trapped by time.  Gay Hendricks, the author of “The Big Leap,” has a good way of putting it:

Time is the master, and I am the slave

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Once you see the ramifications of this and begin to really understand the implications of it your life, I’m sure you will want to implement change and learn how to transcend time and space to free yourself of this “time-bondage.”

The Newtonian Time Paradigm

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Newtonian time has taught us to assume we will always experience a limited amount of time in each day.  It teaches that humankind will always have a problem with time, due to the fact that it is a limited commodity in our lives.  

We can compare this paradigm to other aspects of life. If we assume that there will always be a limited amount of food or water in the world then we will always fear the inevitable outcome of running out of both commodities.  This aligns with the Newtonian time concept that time is finite, and because of that, we must always fear the possibility of running out of it. In this thought process, we will always be rushing to stay ahead and not fall behind.

This is an unhealthy and outdated social indoctrination that we’ve likely all been guilty of falling victim to. This causes us stress, anxiety, and other burdens and eventual illnesses due to the constant “man-made” struggle in our heads.

Learn how to transcend time with Einstein Time

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Humankind “made up” the aspect of time as we know it, and have been using it to manage and live our lives.  Through this man-made creation, we have unconsciously allowed it to rule over us.

But we can begin to see a different way of viewing the concept of time. In order to do this, we must learn to see and understand that You are where time comes from. Its the single truth of what time is. We decide it. Let’s take this concept a step further and discover that You are time!  I know at first it may be a difficult concept to grasp, but seeing this truth will free everything up in your life to be so much more empowering.

Living your life with “Einstein time” means building a positive relationship with time.  You can begin to properly balance your priorities with time and not be ruled by it.  You begin to put in less amount of time and get twice the output from your efforts.

The benefits of Einstein Time:

  • Spend half the time you used to to achieve your agenda
  • You become the creator of your time, not those outside of you
  • Relieve the pressure and hustle in life
  • Lessen anxiety, stress, and improve health
  • Feel more at peace
  • Constant state of refreshing renewal
  • Get done what you need to and still have time for those you love
  • Because you are the source of time, you have as much of it as you need

Taking a Leap of Faith into the Time Tunnel

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When you are doing something that you love, you enter what is sometimes referred to as “flow state.” Time seems to bend and you will enter sort of a Time Tunnel.  Time often doesn’t move as it appears to in normal everyday life. What often feels like 1 hour may feel like 1o minutes.  In direct opposition to this, if you are doing something you don’t want to be doing or something you totally distaste doing, 10 minutes of doing this task will feel like 1 hour. 

We need to learn to understand and see time as the exact moment you are in.  Understand that everywhere you are, through every point of you day, is right where you should be. Let time and space be a part of you. Don’t let the rushing thoughts of concern and worry enter your mind. Work to control any fear or doubt about your day. Properly allowing the space you occupy, to simply be, will melt away all concerns of man-made time.

Let’s take a look at an example:

Newtonian Time Thought Process: 

You constantly look at your watch or phone to keep checking on the time.  You become anxious and stressed as the begins to take a negative toll on you. The feeling of overwhelm and concern sets in. When you arrive to your destination, you complain about the traffic and likely continue to have aggravations throughout your day due to the negative beginning.

Einstein Time Thought Process:

Embrace the space you are in.  Understand that this traffic backup occurred and perhaps it did for a reason that is unbeknownst to you. There is no need to check your watch or phone for the time, as you will get to your destination when you are supposed too. You stay removed from stress and anxiety. When you do arrive to your designation you mention the fact of the crazy traffic and find out that many others were late due to the same reason.

Learn to transcend time & Embrace Einstein Time Everyday

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I highly anyone that hasn’t read Gay Hendrick’s “The Big Leap” to give it a read. There are vast other learnings in his book about life in general and breaking into your “zone of genius.” How we view time has a lot to do with this.

  • See yourself as your own arbiter of time
  • Believe and learn that YOU create your own time, not the world
  • Cease any negative talk about time
  • Ignore the urge when others complain about time, you’ll notice it more
  • Take notice of any feelings of anxiety or stress:
    • Discontentment or hurry – why? See these feelings for what they are. Recognize if you are creating these feelings yourself and if so, change your thought behaviors. If others are creating them, find a way to distance yourself from them if possible, or begin to ignore their impact in your life.
  • Embrace the space you are in! You are right where you are supposed to be at the exact time you’re supposed to be there.

I hope this gives you some perspective on how to learn how to transcend time and space. It will help you remove anxiety and stress from your life. We have this ability through our own mindset and just need to see it as such.

Have any other suggestions or best practices that work for you? Feel free to share your experiences and join in the conversation.

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Remove Anxiety from your Life through these 5 Steps

When most people are asked about their social pressures and how to remove anxiety from their lives, they’ll point to external factors they believe are out of their control. The fact is, the amount of anxiety we create or remove from our life is completely up to us. It comes down to mindset. We are either the creators of more anxiety or the buffers through which we weaken its grip.

Here are some basic and practical examples to remove anxiety from you life:

1. Bring yourself into Present Moment Awareness

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The first step in removing anxiety in your life is the realization that life only ever occurs in the present moment. We are too often caught up with our monkey mind of thought that we forget what is happening now. What is happening now is all we ever have control over.

When we find ourselves stresses over a future event that hasn’t happened yet or dwelling on a fear from the past, we cripple ourselves in the present. This causes us anxiety.

The key through this very important first step is to catch yourself in all the moments where you are feeling anxious. How often in the present moment do you actually deserve to be anxious?

Our minds are wired for a bi-gone human era. We used to depend on fight or flight responses for survival. However, today the stress we generate comes from meetings, tests, speeches, etc. We generate our own fears and anxious moments.

To begin stepping out of this trap, we must see life for how it always is lived – ever presently.

2. Remove Anxiety through Learning how to Breathe

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You read that right. Learning how to actually breathe is a thing.

After we understand how the benefits of becoming present aid us in life, we can begin to work on enhancing that presence. We do this through breath work.

There are many great resources that teach breathing exercises to aid in the reduction of anxiety. Too many people fail to realize they breath wrong. Yes, breath work in meditation helps as well. Yet, there are so many people that don’t realize we should be breathing from our abdomens, not our chests.

Diaphragmatic breathing can lower your stress levels, reduce your blood pressure, and regulate other important bodily processes.

Here are the simple steps to bring “belly breathing” into your life:

Here’s the basic procedure for diaphragmatic breathing:

  • Sit in a comfortable position or lie flat in comfortable position.
  • Relax your shoulders.
  • Put one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach.
  • Inhale through your nostrils for about two seconds. You should experience the air moving through your nostrils into your abdomen, making your stomach expand. During this type of breathing, make sure your stomach is moving outward while your chest remains relatively still or as flat as possible.
  • Curl your lips (as if you’re about to drink through a straw), while pressing gently on your stomach, then exhale slowly for about two more seconds.
  • Repeat these steps several times for best results or until you get used to the feeling.

3. Identify “The Gap” between You and what You cannot Control

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Reducing anxiety in your life becomes so much easier when you realize you only control you. This means your power of choice becomes your savior.

Even through most people will admit they have less control over their lives than they’d like to admit, they still try and control others as well as situations out of their control. We are relentlessly caught in our own rat race. Seeing the forest through the trees means seeing we only are playing the game of life against ourselves.

“The Gap” so to speak, is everything else. It’s other peoples choices, lives, careers, journeys, stresses, positives, negatives, and all else that comes along with life.

You have control over only one thing — YOU. When you can see this paradigm the world becomes less stressful. It isn’t about not caring or not trying anymore. Rather it is about only applying pressure to the situations that you directly impact.

This is one great epiphany that is worth the ticket of admission to reducing anxiety. Learn to let go of what you can’t control and only live through what you can.

4. Stop Playing the Comparison Game

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Once we realize we only really have to worry about our choices in life, we can begin to look at others around us. Or better yet, stop looking at others around us.

Yes we are going to socialize and enjoy life in good company. But we do not have to get caught up in the game of comparisons. Keeping up the the Jone’s is a trap. It’s a trap that causes us more stress and anxiety than we need.

Society has programmed us to admire everyone other than ourselves. We compare ourselves incessantly to others. What type of car, house, education, careers, spouses, kids, etc. do they have? This isn’t healthy for us or our own life missions.

Everyone is working through their own journeys. Some are asleep at the wheel, and others are wide awake and aware. Find what makes you happy in life and bring more of that thing into your existence. Stop searching for all the things your friends or coworkers have.

We need some things for safety, health, and overall contentment, but most things we chase after only generate more anxiety. By reducing our demands for all the things our neighbors and friends have, we also remove anxiety from our lives.

5. To Remove Anxiety Become the Spectator

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The fifth and final key to removing anxiety in your life is to realize that in the purest form of reality – you are the watcher or spectator of your life.

Yes, I know it’s metaphysical sounding, but it is the truth in my humble opinion. At our core, we are not our thoughts, worries, anxieties, egos, or even our minds.

We exist as a conscious energy awareness that sits behind the veil of physical life. We are a part of it, but we are not it. Life occurs on the physical plan of existence. When we come the watcher or spectator of our lives we can better view and respond to our emotions.

We can begin to see the fear, stress, and anxiety for what they really are mostly — fragments of our past that come around to haunt us in our present moments.

We can remove anxiety from our lives almost completely and live a happier, healthier, more purpose filled and enjoyable life. Once we see anxiety for mostly for what it truly is, we can begin to live a life full of more health benefits and many other life changing elements.

How has anxiety crippled you in your life? Are you ready to rid yourself of this self-perpetuated and damaging emotion? What best practices have you employed to help move remove anxiety from your life? I would love to hear from you — please feel free to leave a comment and join in the conversation.

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Misbeliefs on Meditation and Mindfulness

If you are like most people, you have many misbeliefs on meditation and mindfulness. However, you need not be most people. You can find the time, practice meditation and mindfulness daily, and reap the many benefits that it gives us. All you need to understand is what meditation and mindfulness really is. Once this framework is understood, you can be on your way to meditating multiple times each day. This will help calm the mind, and open your intuitive pathways to more insight and guidance.

Misbelief #1 – Meditation takes too long

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Too many people picture the practice of meditation taking up hours of their day. This is one of many very big misbeliefs on meditation. People often don’t even begin to practice because they don’t think they have the time.

The fact of the matter is that mediation can be as short as 30 seconds of quiet time. It need not take up hours of time.

Chances are you have many opportunities throughout a given day to meditate. Do any of these moments in time sound familiar?:

  • riding on public transportation
  • going for a walk or run
  • sitting down to eat
  • driving to or home from work
  • or any other mundane daily task

These as well as many other moments of time throughout our days are all opportunities to meditate. We have more time than we often realize to create space, pause, and practice mindfulness.

If nothing else, dispelling the belief that meditation must be “so many minutes or hours” of time is crucial. Once we get past this first hurdle we can move onto another misbelief – to meditate we must clear our minds.

Misbelief #2 – To Meditate properly, I cannot allow any thoughts into my Mind

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There are a lot of people that have misbeliefs on meditation and mindfulness because they believe they aren’t doing it right if thoughts enter their minds. This is so damaging because most people can’t avoid this when they first begin. They instantly want to give up since they think they are doing the practice incorrectly. The fact is, even very seasoned and experienced practitioners of meditation watch thoughts creep into their minds while meditating.

The trick too kicking this misbelief to the curb is to allow thought to enter the mind. Observe it and then quickly and quietly dismiss it.

You will find it often and frequent at first to see thoughts coming and going into your frame of reference. This is completely normal. Dismiss the thought and tell yourself you are here in this time to observe the practice of meditation. Do not beat yourself up or become discouraged if thoughts continue to enter your headspace. Simply acknowledge them and let them go. Bring yourself back into the present moment and continue to put out the intention of practicing meditation.

The more you make the effort for a few minutes each day and continue to allow the passing thought, the more you’ll find yourself with periods of calm mind and thoughts.

Misbelief #3 – Meditation must be done in a certain posture

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The above image is a typical representation of what most visualize meditation to look like.

The fact is that meditation can be done sitting, laying, standing, walking, running, and in many other points of posture. This is one of the biggest misbeliefs on meditation. For myself, the typical “sitting lotus” position is not comfortable. I prefer sitting in a chair, with my back relatively straight and my feet on the floor, or when lying down.

You need to find a position that you’re comfortable in. Once you find what works best for you, then work to get your body and breath work in proper synchrony.

The position of the hands can become relevant for certain different types of mediation, but the placement is not overall related to the practice of meditation. The key is get your body relaxed and comfortable so that your mind doesn’t naturally wonder due to your body being uncomfortable.

Explore and find what positions work best for you. There really is no one best position that works better than others.

Misbelief #4 – I’m going to see immediate benefits

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While you will feel more calm and collected immediately upon completing any amount of time of meditation, the vast improvements in your life come later.

Like in all things, the real benefits take some time. We’ve all heard the analogy of working out in the gym – muscles don’t grow after just one workout. We need to apply ourselves routinely in order to notice changes. The same can be applied here.

Over time the many benefits become noticed. They are, but are not limited to, the following:

  • lowered blood pressure
  • lowered anxiety
  • increased focus and awareness
  • increased levels of intuition and “gut instinct”
  • ability to enter “flow state” and maximize idea generation

All it really takes is a small amount of time each day or even small increments multiple times a day. I find myself making a game of it to see how many times in one day I can bring myself fully into the present moment. This is one simply way of practicing meditation – the more presence you attain in one day, the more you are practicing meditation and mindfulness.

Misbelief #5 – Meditation is hard

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Another one of the big misbeliefs on meditation and mindfulness is that it is too hard.

This is simply not true. The fact is that meditation is actually quite easy. All you need to do is rewire your mind to understand that anytime you bring yourself into the present moment – you’re practicing meditation. You become more mindful when you are not dwelling in the past or future. There are many great benefits to becoming more present in life.

When you frame it up this way, you can really make some great progress in the meditation and mindfulness space. Think of all the times through the day you get stuck in forward thinking aspects of life or issues from the past. Just make more of a commitment to bring your thought and focus into “the now” or present moment.

There may be no better way to do this than observing nature. I find nature as the most calming and ever present aspect of life. Perhaps this is because nature itself isn’t stuck analyzing itself. It just simply – “is.” There is no past or future in nature. The time is always “now.”

So even if you’re stuck in traffic, in a boring meeting, or worried about a future project; just take a peak outside or get outdoors and notice the present beauty in whatever is happening. You’ll likely find you have far more ability to meditate and practice mindfulness than you once realized.

Here are some easy steps to get good at using nature to become more present.

What misbeliefs on meditation do you have?

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I’m sure those reading this have heard of the many significant benefits in meditation. However, they often talk themselves out of getting serious about the habit.

Part of my purpose in life is to remove limiting life beliefs for people that don’t see themselves in the most empowering light.

Are there any other aspects of life that deter you from the ability to make a great daily mediation habit? I’d like to hear them so that we can together work to dispel any misbeliefs on mediation and mindfulness that keep us from attaining greater levels of happiness, wellness, and meaning. As well as sharing any best practices that help aid the cause towards more meditation and mindfulness.

Please feel free to share a comment or perspective. I’d love to hear your thoughts…

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