Those words live in infamy across the globe. Some of the phrases above translate to “Don’t Forget.” Nevertheless, these words are solidified within the hearts, souls, and minds of billions of humans across the globe for different reasons.
I remember where I was that day when I watched the towers burn and crumble…many of us do.
But now 20 years later – what do the words “Never Forget” mean through my own interpretation, growth, learning, and internal development?
Never Forgetting the Lives Sacrificed
While many see war as a necessary means to an end – I no longer do. That said, I will never forget the millions of lives sacrificed around the globe for what these men and women believe to be the greater good, on all sides, not just from the standpoint of an “American.”
These brave souls stand, fight, and often die in the line of duty for their nations. As human consciousness continues to evolve, I can see a day in the not so distant future through which we do not solve conflict through acts of war and further violence.
War is an outdated belief system that can be un-programmed in the minds of our leaders. We need not resolve disagreements through acts of violence and murder. There are other, more spiritual and soulful answers against those actions that are more egoic and worldly in nature.
All of that said – I will never forget the tens if not hundreds of millions of souls across the globe that have given their physical lives for what they believed in. While I don’t find it necessary any longer, I acknowledge the “up to now” aspect of the human consciousness. I respect and appreciate all lives around the globe that have served their countries and died for their respective causes.
My hope, belief, and meditation is that all soldiers around the globe lay down their arms before their leaders and commit that they will fight no more.
For we need not sacrifice another human soul through the act of war if we choose not too listen to those calling upon us for more war. There are better ways – better solutions to resolving conflict and disagreement.
Never Forgetting to Bring More Love to the World
Love is the antithesis to hate as well as the overarching answer to solving it. Without sounding too “hippieish” – all we need is love.
This is a fact. As human kind moves up the spiritual levels of consciousness, love is where we begin to show more care, appreciation, and connectedness with the world. Above the levels of love are joy, peace, and enlightenment:
I will never forget that we are all human first. No matter our difference of opinion, political alignments, spiritual belief system; we are in this human playground experience together.
In this hyper-polarized world in which we live, I continue to work to observe the pendulum swing of the principle of rhythm.
As the power controllers of the world aim to stay within power, I believe it is often intended to generate more hate, division, opposition, and in-fighting. It is my opinion that this is by design to hold humanity back or slow our progress of collective consciousness evolution.
I will not forget that humankind is wising up to these Hegelian dialectic tactics:
Thus, I will not forget to see you as a “human being first” over all other labels that we have given ourselves or have received from society.
Never Forgetting that United We Stand – Divided We Fall
Above all else…
I have learned in the last 20 years that we are connected on this planet not only through a physical nature, but spiritually as well.
We truly are all connected. There is no force on this planet that can stop us if we collectively bond together. Yes, there is work to be done. All of humanity is slowly waking up to the fact that there are manipulators abound that are trying desperately to hold us back.
Every tactic in the book of psychological warfare is being cast upon as globally. I believe the archaic operating system of power and control is crumbling around us. Thus it is why we are experiencing such extremes.
Never forget that we are many, they are few. Their intentions are to hold us back, retard our spiritual, collective conscious evolution.
Never forget that it is humanity’s destiny to push forward and reach it’s full potential.
Perhaps the pivotal point that took our breath away and caused our collective hearts to skip a beat twenty years ago to the day on September 11th, 2001 was the beginning of the outdated oligarchy beginning to crumble apart.
I will never forget those lives lost then, after, and continued.
For it is through them, that my then closed eyes – are now wide open…
Chances are you’ve heard of mindfulness. But what exactly is it and how does becoming present in life benefit you? From seeing life with more clarity to being able to better reflect for future benefit, more and more people are discovering mindfulness. There is power in presence. But how do we achieve it in this ever increasingly distracting world?
To Find Happiness, First Become Present
I recently had a podcast guest by the name of Tessa Stowe that helped frame up quite nicely how to find happiness. Tessa is all about living in a high vibration. She mentioned how to find happiness being we first must pull ourselves into the present moment. We can’t become happy without being present. Really think about that for a moment. In most cases, when you remember happy moments, chances are you were deeply entrenched in that moment. Whatever joy you were experiencing was brought to you through exactly what was happening in your life at that present moment.
Quite simply, becoming present means stopping and noticing the world around us. You’ve likely heard the phrase, “stop and smell the roses.” That’s precisely what it means. Stop and “take notice.” The roses won’t last forever and their gift of beauty is meant to be enjoyed.
Too many people think that becoming present is about simply finding awareness. It goes well beyond that. It involves living with less ego. When we can lessen the ego, we have more ability to tap into our higher self. That’s the aspect of life we want to listen to over the ego and the mind. When we listen to our higher selves over ego, we will find more meaning, purpose, and happiness.
Becoming Present through Pain & Suffering
But what about when we suffer pain and loss in life? That is about the last time we would want to worry about becoming present right? Actually, it is quite the opposite.
While pain and suffering are certainly emotions we want to avoid in life, they are often experienced as lessons. These life lessons teach us important values if we absorb ourselves in the moment. It may hurt to become fully present in times of suffering and loss, but important lessons come from those moments.
It is far easier to simply want to avoid these moments of pain and agony. However, we will grow and be better by appreciating the present moments of pain and suffering.
The human condition is going to involve suffering. By paying attention and becoming mindful in these moments, we are able to engage more fully in all other moments of life. This is how we begin to enjoy the special moments more. Realizing that the principle of polarity in life is going to bring us more swings of the pendulum is an important life lesson. It helps us not get too high in good moments, yet not too low in bad moments.
Increased Intuition in Life
Increasing our mindfulness abilities helps us with intuition. Our minds become more clear and our hearts become more open. We are more clearly able to see the choices and paths that are laid in front of us.
This is a super important aspect of discovering and following your purpose. If we really want the most from our lives, we need to have guidance. And not just any guidance from any old Tom, Dick, or Harry – but rather guidance from its highest source. That guidance is available to us. All we need to do is be able to tap into it.
But we can’t tap into that life guidance if we are too busy stuck in ego and fast paced confusing lifestyles. Too often we are stuck in our own “monkey mind” of thought. Worried about tomorrow, next week, or next month. Fear from the past that we are brining into our present moments.
Intuition comes to us in many different forms through becoming present:
moments of brief insight (like when the lightbulb flips on in your mind)
moments of synchronicity and life alignment
the books that we are led to read through connections and friends
the people that come into our lives for reasons, seasons, or lifetimes
If you want more intuition in life, focus on becoming present in your daily life.
When we become more present, we begin to actually “see life.” What I mean by this is we notice the small things. These small things can play on us in many unique ways. Sometimes for our own learning and other times for us to simply become happy. Birds singing, waves crashing, roaring thunder in the distance. Whatever it is – take notice. It’s all apart of the beauty in life that you are meant to notice.
This is all about making the time to slow down. If you find yourself deep within any type of uptempo timing and want to come back into the present moment – just breath. What I mean by this, it notice your breathing. Take a few deep breaths. Focus on large inhales and exhales through your nostrils. Notice how the air feels going in and out. While doing this, you mind automatically slows down so you can become present. Then, you can begin to notice the world around you.
Whether it is morning and evening meditations or journaling, begin and end your day in the same way. There is so much to gain in presence when we stick to a morning routine. This routine sets up your day for alignment with your purpose and ends your evening for a night of good dreams and intuition to feed your mind.
What other aspects have you used when becoming more present in life? I welcome all ideas so that we can continue our learning and growing together.
Please feel free to leave a comment and thank you for reading…
The world is going through a human consciousness shift. We are beginning to realize the old way of earning a living is melting away to a higher and more purposeful one. Making an living used to only be about how to best take care of you and your family. In the new world consciousness that will matter too, but also at a “higher collective” level. Living with more meaning is about making a difference in life on multiple levels. Do you want to live as your best and highest most purposeful self? Read on for more understanding and institution of these powerful mindset shifts.
The Different Layers of Meaning in Life
When we think about making more meaning in life we generally start with us. That’s a good and natural place to begin. But what comes after when we are provided for at a sufficient level? That’s the million dollar question that more and more people these days are seeking the answer to. Let’s sum up the different layers of impact in life:
Personal tribe (those closest to you)
Outer tribe (those you don’t know on collective level)
Global (Earth level)
Universal (All consciousness)
It makes sense that we begin with us. We must first have ourselves in order before we seek to make any higher level impact. This is a key attribute through the entire plan of making more meaning in life and those around us. Our health, safety, and financial needs must first be met before we can satisfy the needs of anyone around us.
Once that base need is met, we can look to those closest in our lives such as our families. This is our personal tribe. Our families, friends, and co-workers that we interact with on daily / weekly / monthly levels.
Beyond our closest family and friends comes our outer tribe. These are people that hear of us and find out about our work and purpose. As we look for more meaning in life, we begin to branch out and find ways to make moments of impact in lives of strangers and people we don’t know as well.
After generating more meaning in the lives of others we can begin to care more about the global level. This does not only pertain to the environment, but also all the human, animal, plant, and other consciousnesses on the planet.
Lastly, we can begin to see consciousness at an even higher level that permeates through the entire universe. Making more meaning at this level transcends time and space into all things material and non-material.
When it comes to what you do for work, is that work aligned with a higher calling? Can you feel that you are able to make a difference on a level that is greater than yourself?
Begin to ask yourself – what is your vision of this “new earth consciousness?” Define what that vision is and ensure that no matter what walk of life you are earning income in, that you vision aligns with the work you do.
It is ok if your actual job doesn’t 100% align with your purpose or mission. But let me stress that it cannot be 100% out of alignment. For example, if you are passionate about helping others as I am, you can find ways to make impact in your current job. As long as that job involves working with others.
However, it would not make sense to work for an organization that is completely out of alignment from what you want to be known and recognized for. If this is the case, then it would behoove you to find a new place of employment or begin your own venture that aligns with more meaning and purpose in your life.
Step 2 – Recalibrate on how you View your Life
After we have become crystal clear on what our purpose and mission in life is, then we can move onto recalibrating and watching the life film that is our own movie.
This step involves getting very clear on the details involving our life. For example, what do we say “yes” and “no” to? Who do we allow into our lives and what do we allow to command our time and attention?
Our very most important resource in life is time. Where we spend it and allow our attention to go becomes of the utmost importance at this step. When we are aiming to expand to our highest self, we must aim to “flow” with the universe and aspire to surrender to what comes into our life for good. Once our intentions are made clear around our purpose, the universe will bring those opportunities before our very eyes. We just have to be aware and say “yes” to those opportunities while saying “no” to what won’t serve us or our journey for more meaning.
By “recalibrating” we begin to “allow” more good to come to us. We shift out of the “controlling” mindset so many of us have been accustomed to. In this new mindset, we can begin to see the “micro-moments” of life as we make decisions to allow vs. control. We need not hit rock bottom as it is often believed in order to allow our lives to flow in unison with more meaning and purpose. The old belief of needing to hit your “low point” in life in order to see life differently isn’t necessary. We need only begin to catch ourselves in old habits of micromanaging and controlling others around us instead of allowing life to flow into and around us.
So if you find yourself wanting to have that “controlling” conversation with your family or coworkers, just notice the moment and settle back some. Get back into the “expansion” mindset over the “contraction” version that you may be used to.
Step 3 – Embody your Highest Self
We don’t always get what we dream of, but we do get what we settle for. This third step is all about shifting your awareness to bring more abundance into your life.
People are beginning to realize what many for generations past didn’t – that time is not linear. We see ourselves living one day at a time, week at a time, month at a time, and years at a time. Yet, the information of our “highest self” and best self is available to us now.
We need not wish to know how we are living 5, 10, 0r 20 years from now – we can call for that insight into our lives now. It doesn’t take some long drawn out super focused meditation, but rather a simple genuine asking and expectation that our higher self embodies into our lives now.
After committing too and living with more meaning and purpose now, we can guarantee that our future self will be all the better for it.
We have the ability to “bend” time and space in order to access our higher self to help us live in “the now” or every present moment. All it requires is for us to geniuinly and compassionately receive this information.
What does this “higher version” of myself say? Who does this higher version of myself associate with and spend time around? What does this higher version of myself say “yes” and “no” too?
This ability embody your higher self is going to help you stay on track towards more meaning, a higher calling, and more purposeful intent in you life.
Step 4 – Redefine your “Minimum Standard” of Living
Ever wonder why the “all seeing eye” is on the back of the U.S. $1 bill? While I’m not completely sure, maybe it has something to do with the worlds currency being tied back to the almighty dollar in some way. Perhaps it is on the back of the 1 dollar bill as this is the first of the paper currencies printed in the U.S. It is the minimum paper standard currency. You can have very few $1’s or very many. Most would like many of these!
Once we have tapped into our higher self and are living in alignment with more meaning, we can begin to work on our self-worth and net worth.
For so long in the old paradigm of the “old world consciousness,” it was – I provide a service and I get paid for that service. My “pay” is only identifiable with what my services provide. This old outdated thinking is beginning to shift.
Now, we can begin to shift our awareness towards the value we bring others dictating our net worth. As we aim to bring more service and value in the lives of others, we will continue to be rewarded for it.
As long as our hearts are in the right place that is. We cannot come from a place of greed. Doing so will not yield good results.
Tell yourself that you are fun of abundance. Make it a daily mantra. Write it down where you can see it. Repeat the phrase daily:
“I am abundant and receive more abundance daily.” You will find that as you serve the greater good with more meaning, you will be rewarded at your standard expectations.
If your minimum standard is “always just enough to get by,” that is what you are going to continue to receive. To serve the world with more meaning, you need more abundant resources.
Continually redefine your minimum standard of living.
Step 5 – Enact Leadership for More Meaning
This last and final step is all about leading at authentic and genuine levels that encompassess more meaning and purpose in your life. It will be required of you since you only associate and operate at that frequency. You now know your truth and nothing can come between you and it. The world consciousness will vibrate and be in alignment with you.
You become your own currency. The vibrational frequency that you operate within brings you more abundance. Everything is now in alignment with more meaning and you purpose.
The world is full of noise and chaos right now. This is because the old paradigm is breaking down. How the world used to work and operate will end. A new operating system is being generated. This is what is causing the chaos. This chaos is actually a good thing. It is necessary for us to begin seeing the “old system” is no more.
What the world needs is more leaders that are aligned well with more meaning and a new “world consciousness.” The days of achieving more and more money to satisfy ones’s happiness are ending. We are waking up and realizing there is more to life.
The beauty in all this is we just need to continue leading at each appropriate level:
Personal tribe (those closest to you)
Outer tribe (those you don’t know on collective level)
Global (Earth level)
Universal (All consciousness)
Don’t jump to another level before you take care of each sequentially. This process doesn’t allow for “skipping” layers. Check yourself in relationship to where you are in each of the above layers. Progress accordingly after ensuring you handle each layer. Lead well within alignment to your purpose at each level.
This is how you find more meaning at all levels of impact in your life and continue to live with more abundance.
As this blog continues onward and upward, I thought it might be helpful and beneficial to explain my definition of “ungraduated.” Yes, ungraduated is a made up word. It is a word that I have made up that beckons towards the search for truth and meaning. We live in a society that is very quick to tell us how to think, live, and believe. The meaning of living ungraduated is all about doing the work on oneself to remove so many of the limiting belief systems we operate within here in the modern world that often hold us back in life.
Living through your own Education
From a young age, many of us are taught how to conform, rather than think. We are given a set of criteria that ranges from history and sciences, to health and the arts. Within that curriculum, we are neatly cast. Failure to see things as society has taught, might garner us a failing grade. So instead, we are taught how to pass tests on the material we are taught. We are not taught to rationalize and form our own conclusions, but rather ensure we are keeping to the programming we are given.
Now mind you, some of this programming is necessary for proper function within society. I am all for that. We need to understand basic math, reading, and social skills. But beyond that, much of what is spoon fed to our youth is largely perspectives from those that wrote the books and the teachers that teach them.
Education, in my opinion, should be about exploration and question gathering. That is what real learning is. Not sitting in a building all day being programmed so that we fit into a nice neat ball that plays well in society.
There is so much education we have been given, not all of it correct or good, that there is a great need to ungraduate from it. We are not taught in school about how to attain real happiness, meaning, or purpose. No, we are schooled on how best to produce and function within the man-made hamster wheel of modern society.
The Meaning of Finding your own Religion
How much trouble can come from something that is supposed to be so good? The bloodshed over religion is one of the greatest embarrassments to the human name. My god is right, no MY god is right. Whatever god does exist certainly does not want us killing in its name, or it is likely not a god worth dying for.
For the most part, we have passed through the darker days in which people killed in the name of their religion. We are certainly not 100% past those days, but at least past the days of starting all out wars over it.
Instead, we now bicker, fight, and call each other bad names over social media or in close family quarters when we don’t agree about ones faith. Still a lot of work to be done, in my humble opinion.
How about this for a novel idea? We stop searching for which religion is right and make our own personal search of truth in faith. We have enough information available to guide us and help us make informed decisions.
This is for those that care to seek for the higher good. Enough to help us understand where our souls may inevitably be heading one day. For those that care not about a higher power – more power to you! It matters not to me. I’m confident enough that life is going to continue on after death. I’m not seeking to prove it to you when I know you will find out when your day comes.
The meaning of living ungraduated when it comes to religion is about doing your own work towards God. Whatever you feel God is, is up to you. It is how you find God that matters and not through the forced nature or threats of another human being.
Ungraduate to your own Politics
Perhaps one of the more understood reasons of needing to ungraduate, might come from the political spectrum we live in today. What a complete and total disaster it has become.
We can hardly speak to another person that has an opposing political view.
The meaning of living ungraduated in terms of politics is completely putting yourself on a “human level.” It is not about red versus blue or how to better balance the budgets. Living in an ungraduated way in terms of politics is realizing that politics is more of a facade, designed to keep us in lower vibration. Right and left are two wings of the same bird.
Perhaps at one point in time, politics was about “for the people, by the people. But we are a long way away from that point in time. Yes, the world functions on politics, I completely understand that. We need politics in order to “get things done” in the current modality of the world. However, we need not allow politics to bring our level of vibration down.
Despite our differences, our commonality is that we are human. By undraduating from the political spectrum, you are choosing to ignore the political hatred and banter, yet still stay in tune with the world. You look at the world with love, compassion, and concern for its betterment. We may need to still vote in order to get action done, but we need not hate the other side that wins or loses.
Seeing the World in an Ungraduated Way
To sum it all up – the meaning of living ungraduated is all about being curious. It is about asking the bigger questions in life and finding your own way rather than walking in the footsteps of others. It’s about removing limiting life belief systems.
When we stop asking questions and take everything at face value we begin to limit ourselves. The human mind is an amazing device when we use it rather than allowing it to be programmed.
What are some aspects of your life where you have become ungraduated? What new perspectives have you gained through being naturally curious? How have you become more of your authentic self?
Would love to hear as many perspectives as possible on the topic. There is so much in life that we need to seek answers for. We may not find them all, but starting with the bigger questions is how we begin to find our way, through our why – our purpose. It’s how we begin to truly define the meaning of living.
How much stress and life-struggle comes from watching other people’s movies? How often do you “watch your own movie?” We want what our friends have. Their social media posts seem better than ours. It seems their children are more well behaved than ours. Vacations they take are even more extravagant than ones we get to take. The constant daily grind often is perpetuated when we tune into the broadcast life of others around us. Peace, serenity, meaning, and happiness is brought to you through watching your own movie, not the movies of others.
But how do we steer clear of the traps of watching others movies so that we can maximize the lives we live?
Here are some tips and life hacks that you can implement to continue living as your authentic self, rather than envying those around you.
Get Comfortable in Your Own Skin
Look, by now we’ve all heard about body shaming, confidence issues, and the like that force some people to look at others with envy.
Stopping this infectiously bad habit takes some rewiring of the mind. Start with these steps:
Assess yourself by your health – not your bodily figure
Depending on your physical fitness, decide what steps you need to take to be more fit
Set S.M.A.R.T goals (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, time-bound) physical health goals such as
walking / running at a certain pace
how much weight you want to be able to work out with
what is your cholesterol level and where should it be?
blood pressure and what target you should be at?
By using actual health and fitness goals, you begin to see yourself in a better light. Gauging yourself against how physically fit you should be for your age is far better than trying to pin yourself against others in terms of how they look versus you.
There is no telling how physically fit someone is that “looks attractive.” However, you working to become your best self health wise, will begin to add more confidence and security of mind. It will help you live as your more authentic self. This is just one step in watching your movie over the movies of others.
Discover Your Life Passions and Live Them
So much in our lives comes from watching others. When are we going to jump into the water of life for ourselves?
We look to others that are living what we enjoy, yet often don’t believe we can do what they do.
What are your interests? How about your passions? Would you be doing something different in life if you could?
Make a list of all the things in life you love. Be as far reaching as you want. Here are a few that I am very passionate about:
My list could go on quite while longer, but I think you get the point. If you are going to watch your own movie and not the movies of others, we must find a way to intertwine your life passions into purposeful intent within your daily life.
Discovering your purpose in life is where you begin to really entwine more meaning and excitement into your life. You begin to focus heavily on what it is you can do for yourself and others rather than wishing and hoping after what you see others do.
What does the world need that you love to do?
What are your passions and talents that you can bring to the work you do to serve those world needs?
Take these passions and talents and put them into practice in all you do!
Even if you aren’t 100% in the chosen career field you want, you can still bring your talents and strengths into your everyday job to begin living your purpose. Want to find purpose at work? Change your perceptions. This will give you more meaning and you’ll quickly find yourself watching your own movie, rather than hoping for a new job or career change.
Live and Be at Your Best
Rest easy if you know you’ve done the very best you can.
I go to bed and sleep easy at night if I know I have any problem or life situation the best I had to give. When asking yourself that question honestly, only make adjustments if you know you could have put in more effort. If you know you gave the maximum output; rest easy.
Know and live by your values. Develop a code of conduct that you can live within. These are values you will not compromise and will look for in others you bring close in your life.
When you authentically live as your best self, it is far easier to live with and watch your movie over getting caught up watching the movies of others.
What it all boils down to is life is about YOU. Not those that you watch around you. What are you doing to live as your best most authentic self?
Are you living out your purpose and passions? How can we be better at this together? Would love to hear thoughts and comments as we aim to grow and achieve more together.
What is it that matters most in life? Is it personal gain? What about recognition and status? When we sit back and ponder on what we want to achieve and attain in life, hopefully we think about the impact we make on others. This is where our truest moments of self-worth and accolades should be found. These 12 lessons for life and leadership will not only help you attain more, but also leave a lasting legacy.
1. Lead with Love
Leading with love will ensure that you begin and end each day with the right mindset. It is my personal belief that when we serve others, we gain back more in return. Therefore, upon leading with love and true care for others in the world helps keep us within the right frequency to gain the same back.
It sounds cliche, but who doesn’t want more love in their lives? Putting it out to those we interact with, even love and care for everyday strangers, it going to help you get back what you put out. And that is far better than the opposite effect.
2. Allow Leadership into Your Life
Who or what is guiding you?
Set up the mental construct for what you believe in and how you want to be lead. What is your purpose? How does that purpose guide you? Upon figuring out this important aspect of life, you can begin to look for more learning, teaching, knowledge, and leadership that can help you further round you into your best self.
This learning and leadership you gain then can be put into place into your life for greater impact for those around you.
3. Listen More than You Speak
The famous phrase – “we have two ears and one mouth for a reason” rings true here.
Don’t be so apt to jump into conversations with your opinions and validations. Rather, choose to speak with intent and purpose. Listen to conversations rather than trying to speak over them.
Upon practicing this “more listening and less talking technique” it also will hep others realize when you do speak up, it is going to have a lot of insight and meaning.
Resist always being the squeaky wheel and instead work to become the calm, collected, stoic; then when you speak, others truly will listen.
4. Keep Others Remembering their Essence
When you are true to yourself, it helps others become more true to their self. The saying of “Lead by Example” is the foundational principle here.
When we as leaders or people of purpose, vivaciously live our lives through meaning, others can’t help but take notice. Even those without their true “North Star” will want to find one.
Why not better others around you through keeping them honest about their truest purpose? Helping others in this manner truly generates great lessons for life and leadership.
5. Watch for Repetitions
When we are carefully looking for the patterns in life and how it unfolds, it helps us be better prepared for our futures.
Life happens in the ever present moment only, but through becoming watchful of the pendulum swings we can better anticipate challenges or ensure we don’t get too high in the positive momentums.
In all our lives, we’re going to experience the pendulum swinging – we need to be watchful and observant of it.
6. Live with Balance
Try your best to not do anything in excess.
Proper balance in life is important for any leader, entrepreneur, or purposeful individual. It is easy to get caught up in the excessiveness of life. This can be in things that are good for us like exercising or of course in the more negative aspects such as binge drinking to forget a stressful event.
Life is meant to be lived in balance. Even the earth, moon, and seasons move within the same balance. We need to live in accordance to a similar cadence. Nothing in excess – but enough of what we need. Enough work / enough time off. There is no trophy for who works the hardest or longest.
7. Reflect Often
How can we see where we are going if we haven’t paused to look at the path we’ve traveled?
Making time to reflect on your decisions, progress, failures, and victories is important. Reflection is what purposeful individuals do. It is a lesson for life and leadership that no one should do without.
Whether it be weekly, monthly, or quarterly, plan some time into your calendar for a day to go on a retreat. Make it just for you. Could be for a walk in the park, a hit in the mountains, or a trip to a new town just to sit at the cafe.
Whatever works for you, just ensure you make time for that reflection. It helps to write those moments down in a journal so they can be reflected back on through time. It will make you a better leader and individual and certainly is one of the most important lessons for life and leadership.
8. Be Aware of Your Emotions
Too often people feel they need to be the boulder that slams into the lake falling high from the cliff.
What comes of the individuals around you after those massive waves calm into ripples on the water? Even after the water is still again the emotional scars can remain.
Purposeful individuals and great leaders are aware of their emotions. They do their best to ensure they don’t rock the waters as they pass by. The waters of life can be choppy enough, why add more waves?
9. Be a “Net-Giver”
Ever meet those people that always take from you but never want to give? It can be your time they want, your money, your toys, or anything else. They want, want, want!
Don’t be that person! Be the person that shows up for others and asks how you can be of service. I promise you’ll find yourself happier and always receiving even more in return. It is universal law.
I don’t mean “over-give” either. Be respectful of your time, money, and resources. But with the right balance, aim first to give; rather than take from others.
10. Be Authentic and Transparent
Once you begin to live with purpose, it becomes easier to be authentically transparent.
Most human beings like to avoid confrontations, but it’s a fact of life. We are going to face them. Being truly genuine with others and having their best interests at heart means telling them the truth.
Once you get a few genuinely, transparent, and authentic conversations under your belt, it becomes easier. No person of purpose is going to go far in their goals without these lessons for life and leadership.
11. Rely on Great People and Systems
There is no easy way to accomplish all you want in life completely on your own.
You must attract, development, and retain great people around you if you are in leadership. And if you are simply battling to accomplish your own cause, it helps to have a great community and support system around you.
There is always power in numbers. Never try and go it alone.
12. “Done” is Better than “Perfect”
Finally, simply remembering that it’s better to get to the finish line without achieving your perfect record setting pace versus never crossing it at all.
Too many people in this world are “afraid to finish.” We consume ourselves with new projects and always looking for excuses to procrastinate or find reasons to not begin that new project.
Put it out into the world and just start. Then get it to completion. In most cases, whatever it is you are working on you can always make it better later. But you won’t have that finished project to edit or improve if you don’t start or finish it.
I hope this post helped jog some points of discovery and epiphanies for anyone that comes across it.
We are always a work in progress. The key is realizing that and putting in the effort for constant improvement.
What is it that you are working on in terms of becoming your best self? What lessons for life and leadership have you discovered that have been the best teachers for you? I’d love to hear from you and what it is that you are working on so we can continue to grow into the best human beings possible.
Pam Reynolds was a songwriter and orchestrator. She lived in Atlanta and at the age of 35, she was diagnosed with a brain aneurysm. This aneurysm was a particularly challenging one to address as it was located in her brain stem near the base of her skull. There was one procedure that she was told gave her very little chance of survival, but that it was her only hope at continuing her life. To address the aneurysm, part of the skull is removed, including the base of the eye. This creates a space that allows access to the base of the skull. The body temperature was lowered to 60.8 degrees Fahrenheit. Her blood was then drained to allow the aneurysm to flatten out. Upon clipping the aneurysm, blood was then pumped back into her body as she was warmed back up. While the surgery was a success, Pam was conscious during the experience. The following description is from Pam Reynolds herself and describes her actual death experience.
Doctor Robert F. Spetzler performed the operation, but there were more people in that room than I would have ever guessed to be in an operating room. They cooled my body down and my heart stopped. My brain waves stopped functioning. They tilted the end of the gurney up and drained my blood, like oil from a car, into a heart lung machine. I’m told that’s what happened but, understand, I was not there when this was happening.
I had been put to sleep. Dr. Spetzler has since assured me that I was nearly comatose. There was no way that I could have heard or seen anything. My eyes were taped shut and my ears had speakers inserted in them making a loud clicking sound. These speakers were used to monitor the response of my brain. Nonetheless, I began to hear a tone. It was guttural, it was unpleasant, I did not like it. It drew my consciousness like water from a well. And having done that, I sort of popped out of my head to see what this horrific noise was.
At first my vantage point was rather like sitting on the shoulder of the surgeon. In his hand, I saw the instrument that was making the offensive noise. I have heard the word “saw” all my life – my father used a saw, my grandfather used a saw, brain surgeons use saws. I had assumed they were going to open the skull with a saw. But this was no saw. This think was held more like a pencil. It looked like a drill and actually reminded me of an electric toothbrush.
This was the thing that was causing the noise that disturbed my very, very, very, deep slumber.
An Out of Body Experience like None Other
The feeling of exiting the body was incredible. I’ve never weighted five hundred pounds, but if was as if I had and just lost all the weight. I could move around at will. My thought process took me where I wanted to go. I felt no pain, no more suffering, no more fear. I was free to wander around, at will, unobstructed.
I heard a female voice describing that my arteries and veins were too small.I thought they may be working in the wrong areas since they were doing brain surgery. Out of concern I tried to communicate with the female but she could not hear me.
It was indescribable but beautiful to know that I was no longer part of that thing lying on the operating table. “I” was outside of my body.
I began to sense a presence. The feeling was rather like having someone looking over your shoulder and yet there being no-one in the room. I turned around to look at it and instead of seeing a person, I saw a very tiny pinpoint of light. As I started focusing on the light, it started to pull me and the pulling had physical sensation with it. It was like from my tummy, going over a hill real fast. The closer I got to the light, the better I could see and discern figures.
The first figure I knew was my grandmother. I heard her voice calling me. But it wasn’t a voice made of vocal cords, it was something different. Therewere so many people there, many I knew, many I did not know, but somehow I knew I was connected to them. I didn’t know how I knew this, but I knew.
The people were wearing light, they seemed to be made of light. The ones I recognized, it’s as if there had never been a separation between us. There was love, warmth, and protection and I felt all of it.
I then saw my uncle, who had passed away at the age of thirty nine. He didn’t use his mouth to communicate. He did it in another way that I remembered from my early childhood. He had the look. He would look at me and I would understand. It didn’t take long to understand that this was how everyone here communicated.
I asked my grandmother regarding the nature of the light. My communication to her was, “Is the light God?” and there was great laughter and she said, “No, sweetheart, the light is not God. The light is what happens when God breaths.” That was the communication.
The landscape was nonexistent. It was as if the bodies were floating tin midair. There was light and shadow, but it didn’t seem to fall on anything. That’s what convinced me that I probably was not in “heaven.” It had colors like you wouldn’t believe. I was probably in an “in-between” place. Perhaps I was on some sort of bridge on the way, because, let us not forget, they would not let me into that light.
I became concerned as to whether or not I was really there. I looked at my own hands and held them up to my face. I saw something, I knew I was there, I could feel “me.” The odd thing was, I didn’t feel so very different than I feel here. And yet, there was no density in the flesh, but still, I held them up to my face to secure the knowledge that I was there.
There came a time that I knew I had to return to the body. My uncle was going to take me and that was fine. I was okay with that, until I saw the thing and I was not at all pleased. He told me, “Think about your favorite food…Won’t you miss your children?” And then he told me, “It’s like jumping in a swimming pool, baby. Just jump.” I looked down and saw the body jump with the first defibrillation. I definitely did not want to get in the thing then, because, to be honest with you, it looked like what it was — dead. I knew it would hurt. My response to him was – no. So then he pushed me.
I hit the body at the second defibrillation of the heart, and there I was alive and somewhat uncomfortable. Getting back into the body was kind of like jumping into a pool of ice water. It was shocking. I could feel the shock and it was very unpleasant.
I woke up in the operating room and was told I wasn’t supposed to wake up until I was in the recovery room.
Validating the Out of Body Experience
Afterward, Dr. Spetzler listened very closely to everything I said to him. On the following day, he very firmly explained to me that, beyond a shadow of a doubt, this was not a hallucination. He told me that what I described actually occurred. For example, they had to defibrillate me twice.
The voice I had heard was indeed female, and later my doctors introduced me to her. She was the head of the cardiovascular team and she was doing a “cutdown.” this is the methodology by which they drew the blood from my body.
I was able to eventually see the Midas Rex bone saw and indeed it did look like an electric toothbrush.
I was a believer when I left the hospital and I wasn’t the only one. There were several staff members there who said I wasn’t the only case they had seen that was unusual in this regard.
I know that consciousness survives the death of the physical body because I’ve had that experience personally. Beyond that, I cannot, in truth, know anything. In my opinion, what happened to me is evidence of an afterlife.
Having had this near death experience, I no longer fear death. I fear separation. I thought at first that I wouldn’t even fear separation, but there is no experience that makes the separation okay when you lose someone. But when my time comes, I will embrace death.
I find it extremely interesting that others from all over the planet, regardless of culture, religious bias, or political lean defy coincidence by reporting the same basic elements with their near death experiences.
Do Your Own Research – Form Your Own Conclusion
There are thousands and thousands of documented cases surrounding that of out of body, near death experiences, and actual death experience.
She gives both sides to the arguments of consciousness and what happens before and after death. Actual death experiences are examined as well as cases of real life examples of reincarnation.
The soul and spirt that embodies us within the physical reality we call life deserves to be studied. Science likes to have concrete and absolute proof of existence so within these cases it is often difficult to lay claims to truth.
But there is documented proof out there if we want to find it. The evidence is mounting more and more. We can choose to deny these facts and turn a blind eye, or lean into the possibilities and form our own conclusions.
It may not take an actual death experience for us to discover more evidence. There are ways for us to work to discover the power of out of body experiences through focus, mental work, meditation, and other practices. I know this borders on the lines of speculation, but there are people out there who absolutely know that we continue life after death due to their experiences.
I am one of those people. Perhaps at a later point in time I will tell my story here in my blog posts. For me, it wasn’t an actual death experience, but rather the practice of daily focus and effort to experience an out of body experience. Upon that successful completion, my life was also forever changed.
My reason for being became clear – and I had to begin sharing my life experiences in hopes that others may benefit.
For more insight and information on Pam Reynolds, feel free to watch:
What are your thoughts, questions, or even experiences around all this? I would love to have you engage in the conversation.
To me, these are some of the most fascinating questions that we should be exploring in life.
My search for truth will never cease, and I welcome you all along for the ride with me.
What happens after we die? Do we have a soul that continues on? What exactly is spirit? Is there an afterlife? These are just a few of life’s greatest questions that mankind has asked internally and externally for millennia. For those with inquisitive motives around these topics, evidence of life before and after death is surfacing. We just have to know where to look for it.
For those of us born and raised in the western world, there has been a reoccurring dismissal or downright denial of reincarnation. That is all beginning to change as we are being forced to peel back the layers of some profound, real, and life-changing stories.
If you find yourself as a western world believer of “Yolo,” (you only live once), bare with me and keep an open mind. What you are about to embark upon in this reading may shake and challenge you to your very core.
The Curious Beginnings of James Leininger
James Leininger appeared on the surface to be like all other two year old boys. However there was one very troubling issue his parents Bruce and Andrea couldn’t figure out. He would have terrible dreams at night often ending with screaming and recounting a plane crash.
“Airplane crash on fire! Little man can’t get out!” Little James would scream these words while amidst his night terrors. His parents first believed he was suffering from “typical nightmares.”
The nightmares persisted to a point where Bruce and Andrea became increasingly more concerned. They would ask him about the specifics of his dreams. “Who is the little man?,” his mother would ask him. “Me,” James would reply. His father got more involved in the questioning.
“Son, what happened to your plane?” James replied, “It crashed on fire.”
“Why did your plane airplane crash?”
“It got shot,” James would reply.
“Who shot your plane?” James then twisted his head up at his father as if he should know, “The Japanese,” James replied with some discontent in his voice.
How does a two year old respond with such conviction? How could it be that little James seemed to be describing life before and after death? Either it was one wild reoccurring dream or something else was amiss.
Specific World War II Memories Recalled
Future occasions of these night terrors continued and James would eventually tell his parents specific details that continued to baffle them.
He explained that the type of airplane he flew was known as a Corsair. At that time, these aircrafts were the elite fighter planes that the marines and navy pilots would fly. He also told them that the plane took off from a boat called the “Natoma.”
Little James seemed to be describing the fact thathis plane he flew took off from an aircraft carrier. Lastly, little James was adamant that his plane was shot in the front engine, where the propeller was.
Upon hearing this information, his father did some research and found a black and white picture of the Natoma Bay, a small United States aircraft carrier that saw battle in the Pacific during Work War II.
Jame’s father Bruce was absolutely stunned. Convinced his son was making this all up in some way, he pressed on determined to disprove the evidence his son kept placing in front of him.
After all, Bruce was a devout Christian, taught that we live only once. What was happening before his very eyes threatened every belief he was raised under and within his faith. His faith taught that there was no physical life after death. Could his son actually have lived a previous life?
Further research from Bruce concluded that the USS Natoma Bay had been commissoned by the Navy in October 1943 and entered naval service in 1944.
Specific Names Further Credit the Story
By now Jame’s parents were on a serious case of conducting reincarnation research to either disprove or prove their son’s reoccurring dreams.
Jame’s began to refer to himself as “James 3.” This puzzled his parents as to why he would call himself “James 3.” He responded to them with, “I’m the third James.”
Through conducting tireless research, Jame’s father was able to connect with some family members of a friend that James began describing in his dreams. The name Jack Larsen came up and James would tell his parents that Jack was his friend and that he flew planes too.
They believed that Jack was likely dead, but to their astonishment they found that he was actually still alive at the time of doing their research and living in Arkansas. This information was divulged to them while Bruce was attending a veterans Natoma Bay reunion in San Diego, CA in 2002.
Within this reunion Bruce discovered that there was also a “James M. Huston Jr.” This James was killed during an attack of the island of Chichi-Jima, about 150 miles from Iwo Jima. The only details that were known were that James Huston was the only airman killed in that battle.
This explained why their son James called himself “James 3.” If he had been James Huston reborn, he would now be the “third James.”
Only one discrepancy now remained. Little James had said he was flying a Corsair when he was shot down. The documents shown that the plane James Huston Jr. was flying when he was shot down was an FM-2 Wildcat. But there was soon to be more facts that supported this life after death story.
The Remaining Puzzle Pieces
For Christmas Jame’s parents bought him some G.I. Joe dolls which he named, “Billy, and “Leon.” He would play with them for hours and grew very attached to them. When he received a third doll, he named it “Walter.”
With such peculiar names, his parents asked him why he chose to name them those names. James replied, very quickly and precisely, “Because that’s who met me when I got to heaven.”
His father conducted further research and found that a Billie Peeler, Leon, Conner, and Walter Devlin all served on Natoma Bay. They were killed in 1944 and were already dead when James Hutson Jr. was shot down.
Through some census records Bruce found that James Huston Jr. had two sisters, Ruth and Anne. At the time of doing his research, Anne was still alive and eighty-four years old. Upon reaching out to her, she sent him some photos of James.
The first was a photo of the entire squadron with a plane behind it. The second showed James Huston Jr. standing alone in front of and airplane. The image clearly was that of a Corsair fighter plane.
Jame’s Huston’s military records show that before joining his squadron, he flew the Corsair and became quite good at it. When he joined his new squadron however they assigned him to fly the FM-2 Wildcat that he was eventually shot down in.
Form Your Own Conclusions
The evidence of life before and after death is there. We just don’t often hear about it. When we do, it often receives great criticism, at least in the modern western world.
There is plenty of documented research you can conduct on your own with this case and many others. I believe part of our journey on this planet is to do our own work to discover ourselves and our true nature.
Today James lives as a normal adult and has largely put his past life experience behind him. However it took him some time to move past the pain and trauma he was recalling.
Whatever energy his soul carried over to this next life of his was still highly effected from his last life. Perhaps it is the reason why most of us don’t remember our pre-existing lives. Sometimes they end traumatically. Or maybe we do remember at a young age until we grow older and begin to face the challenges of the world and adulthood.
Have you ever had reoccurring nightmares as a child? If so, it is quite possible you were re-expieriencing a past life…
In a way, I feel we do “only live once.” But just as this current body. I believe the soul lives on infinitely with the possibility to come back and learn more and grow through earthly experiences. The evidence of life before and after death is there for us to look at if we want to see it. It is life changing for some to discover this potential reality.
So even if you do think “YOLO,” you’d be correct…until the next incarnation with the same soul – in my humble opinion at least. Or perhaps we just keep at it until we become so experienced and “pure” of love and overall consciousness that we then do “join” back with our source or higher power.
Whatever your belief, I think you can at least attest, this is quite fascinating and exciting stuff!
The benefits of the stoic mind are relevant perhaps now more than ever. Even though the teachings and philosophical views go back to around the 3rd century BC, the learnings may be even more practical today. Our lives are full of social, political, career, personal and media driven distractions. It is often hard to center oneself on what is necessary to focus on let alone deal with the challenges that the modern life is placing in front of us.
Here is an old story that helps frame up the teaching of stoicism quite well:
An old Cherokee told his grandson, “My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is angry, jealous, greedy, resentful, lies and and has a big ego. The other is Good. It is full of joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy and truth.” The boy thought about it, and asked, “grandfather, which wolf wins?” The old man quietly replied, “The one you feed.”
Which wolf are you feeding?
Introduction to Stoicism
Let’s shed some light on the belief system that Stoicism operates within.
In the most simplistic terminology, Stoicism was designed to help people live their best lives possible.
Stoicism is a life philosophy that centers around positive emotions. The goal becomes reducing negative emotions and helping individuals to develop virtues of character.
Stoicism provides a framework for living a life well-lived. It teaches what is truly important in life. In addition, it also centers on providing tactics to bring more positive outcomes into our circle of influence.
Stoicism was created to be understandable, actionable, and practical. Practicing Stoicism doesn’t require learning an entirely new philosophical methodology or meditating for hours a day. Instead, it offers an immediate, useful and seamless way to find tranquility and improve one’s attitude, behaviors, and overall state of mind. It is a life practice that not only can improve our way of living, but also help us discover our purpose.
The Foundation of Stoicism
Stoicism was an attractive school of thought during the 3rd century BC because it provided compelling answers to anxiety, stress, fear, and troubling questions to life at the time. The Stoics offered an operating system that dealt with the trials of the human condition that are quite relevant today.
The teachings largely center around pulling into the front and center of one’s mind more positive behavior. Thus, that focus resulted in a more positive mindset. All of this focus was targeted to avoid the negative focus and negative outcomes of life.
A handful of thinkers helped to form the Stoic philosophy:
Lucius Annaeus Seneca
Zeno of Citium
Our ancestors have taught us the benefits of the stoic mind. They have helped us pave our way to understanding life so that we can attain the most positive outcomes we desire.
The Four Habits of The Stoic Mind
Accept What is only True
We often can get caught up into gossip. It is a human condition that we must resist. The reason being is, more often than not, gossip drives negativity in our lives. When you hear gossip, ask yourself where it is coming from? Does the affirming party truly have proof of this gossip? Ask them if they have proof. If they do not, then kindly ask them not to tell you or do not reciprocate.
Work For the Common Good
Do right by others. Be a good humble individual. Give more compliments than complaints. By being an overall kind, empathetic, loving individual, you will attract more of those traits into your life through giving them off.
Match Our Needs and Wants with what is in OurControl
Life is neither good nor bad; it is the space for both good and bad.
Think of life as a hand of cards. You didn’t control the hand you were first dealt. However, you do control how you play that hand. Essentially, even with a more difficult draw of the cards, we can win. Conversely, with a great hand we can overestimate our good fortune and still lose. The situation we are dealt in life is mostly neutral. It is the actions we take after the hand is dealt that matters.
Embrace what Nature has in Store for Us
O world, I am in tune with every note of thy great harmony. For me nothing is early, nothing late if it be timely for thee. O Nature, all that thy seasons yield is fruit for me.
Let us work to control only our direct surroundings. Even those at times we can’t fully control. Bringing fear and anxitey into our lives over issues we aren’t generating isn’t healthy. What we do control is how we respond. We always have the power of “choice.” Place our focus there.
Putting into practice the benefits of the stoic mind can help change our lives for the better. It does require some action and effort around mindset.
Take one of the four mentioned habits of the stoic mind and put it into place immediately in your life. You’ll see instant benefit if you adhere to the practice daily.
Once you gain the benefits of others, work the other mindsets into your daily life as you are able. Pause and reflect on what is happening in your life. With the benefits of the stoic mind fully employed, you will find your life with:
better health & wellness
more focus and mental fortitude
more meaning and happiness
What benefits have you had from practicing more of a “Stoic Mindset?” However we are living now in these challenging times of change, we stand to benefit even more through practicing the Stoic teachings.
I’d love to hear from here from you! Feel free to post a comment or engage in the conversation.
I’ve always liked to believe I’m living life as my authentic self. However, for most of my life I have often thought about how others view me. It used to be something that I put a great deal of precedence behind. Having lived in the corporate eye for the majority of my adult life, I’ve always been wary of what others think of me. I’ve had to ensure that the corporate view aligns with the “real me” as much as possible. We often reserve our views from the public eye and hold back the “real self” in order to please others. However, living life as our authentic selves first, helps us align to our life purpose.
One of my methods for deciding one’s purpose in life is to use the following formula:
What the world needs
Heed your talents
Your passions in life
I call this the WHY model. Beginning with WHY is vital over the HOW or the WHAT. The “why” is what defines us. To start to think about your purpose or mission, begin with what you think others in this world need help with. This is “what the world needs.”
Next, we call into play what your talents are. “Heeding your talents” brings to the forefront where your strengths are. What do other people come to you for? What support do you find yourself giving in everyday life? These are likely your natural talents.
Lastly we look at your passions. While our passions don’t always lead us to our purpose, it is a good indicator of where to begin our “search for meaning.” This is how we begin to ensure we are living as our authentic self.
Living with Purpose
I have defined my purpose statement as:
“Empower and inspire others to find their purpose in life through helping them deprogram their outdated education and indoctrinations, so they can achieve greater levels of meaning, happiness, and overall success.”
This purpose statement is in my phone, printed in my home office, and put in the forefront of my mind to remind me of WHY I do what I do. It helps me make decisions, prioritize my work, and even align goals in my personal life.
Once we have efficiently aligned on our purpose, our daily mission becomes more clear. Thus, it helps more align how you can begin living as your authentic self.
Fulfilling your Mission Breeds Confidence
Once we have affirmed our reason for being, we are more aptly able to live in truth and honesty. What does this mean? I’ll give just a few examples in my own life:
Despite how others may view me in the corporate space, I have grown more comfortable in my skin with my views. As I am working to generate a platform and community, many of the corporate people I am working with are hearing of my endeavors. It can be a little uncomfortable at first as my personal and life views gain recognition from my peers.
However living as your authentic self has ways to re-affirm if you are on the right path. Many of the corporate people that have discovered my work continuously reaffirm my goals and aspirations with continual accolades and affirmations.
The final part of living as your authentic self has to do with seeing past the inner-critic. This is the part of us that is always questioning how others view us through their own eyes.
Once we have affirmed that the universe is on our side, we need not worry about that inner critic in our heads. As long as we are living with authenticity and integrity, we can say our mind and live to our guidelines.
I’m not sure about you, but this has been one of my biggest hurdles as of late. I know that I’ll never compromise myself morally, legally, or within current social issues. However, the views I have in my life are largely not discussed in the corporate arena. I don’t make it a point to bring these views up in my corporate position, but if someone asks my opinion, I’m not very hesitant to give my view. I’m always cautious to mention my views are my opinions and also my truths through my life experiences.
I know that part of who I am as an individual and living through my purpose, means I have to authentically give my perspectives. How can we live our purpose and mission if we hold back on enlightening conversations with others?
In the end, this is how you can take steps that lead you closer to living as your authentic self.
If you’re at all in the same camp with me here, I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to leave a comment or engage in the conversation with any struggles or success stories you’ve had in your life.