Finding Your Way - Through Your Why ™

Month: December 2020

Reflections…

The time of year has come to reflect on what was and look forward to what is coming. I wanted to take pause and put some thought out on how I’m looking back, in order to move ahead as positively as possible. A friend and Mastermind Leader of a group I am in threw this out to our group today as a good platform for as we enter the new year:

3 things that I am most proud of:

  • 60lbs of weight loss (I was 250lbs at the end of 2019, now much healthier 190lbs)
  • 365 days of legitimately beating my 1000 calorie move goal and exercising every day this year never taking a day off from physical activity
  • Investing in myself – joined a Mastermind Group, read 15+ books, listened to hundreds of podcasts while doing my morning exercise, began writing my 1st book

3 things I need to do differently:

  • Make more time for fun activities with my wife – could be playing board games, cooking with her, watching movies, or really just anything she wants to do. 2020 has limited us in our abilities to have fun how she and I used to with travel, so I need to prioritize time versus just “sitting at home with her.” That isn’t the “kind of time” I want to spend with her. It needs to be of higher quality
  • Commit to a meditation routine for 20 mins daily without fail
  • Plan daily / weekly initiatives, outside of work, so I can insure I accomplish personal goals

Top 3 greatest influencers for me:

  • James Clear – “Atomic Habits”
  • Dave Asprey – “Super Human”
  • John Baines – “The Stellar Man”

Smartest Decisions I made:

  • Investing in a Mastermind Group (I’ve seen great connections and bridges open up for me out of the group I attend bi-weekly since September)
  • Choosing my health and fitness over any other excuse not to
  • Investing in Overstock.com before online shopping grew exponentially (was more luck, but I fell into it with a small investment that paid off as the stock soared due to everyone staying home and being online)

Most caring acts of service:

  • My volunteering for hospice care (although this had to stop due to obvious circumstances in the present world environment)
  • Mentoring 3 different individuals throughout the year
  • Volunteering time to serve meals to those less fortunate through the holiday season

Biggest risks:

  • Cashing out of my Bitcoin stake and moving into a lesser known crypto currency (I believe this will payoff far more than my Bitcoin gains in the future but time will tell – all investments in crypto are high risk / high reward)
  • Writing a book (only because I truly don’t know where that future is taking me)
  • My foray into FOREX trading of currency (just toying around with it to learn right now, but again – high risk / high reward)

Most important relationships improved:

  • My relationship with my wife – even during the challenges of this year, I feel her and I are closer than we’ve ever been. We have aligned on “similar paths” of focus and interest in 2020 that is helping us bond at higher levels
  • My relationships with my family – while it never seems enough to me, I talk more with them and see them more than I have in years past
  • My relationship with the team I lead – I am responsible for 6 highly unique individual leaders, that I feel in my second year in position, has really seen our professional cohesiveness as a team grow stronger

One word that best describes all of 2020:

  • “Mental-Fortitude” – okay it’s technically two words by I hyphenated them to make it seem like one 😉

3 things to do less of in 2021:

  • Less time perusing apps on my phone (I’ve already cut out most all TV – now time for the wasted time on my phone – time is our greatest asset and I want as much of it productive as humanly possible)
  • Less time spent on politics – I simply cannot control it so I cannot allow the frustration to set in that at times can consume me
  • Staying up late – I want to ensure my days begin no later than 5:30am everyday for all that I want to accomplish in the New Year (personally and professionally)

3 things to do more of in 2021:

  • Weekly practicing to learn guitar (just bought a brand new guitar that I’m learning and can’t wait to become proficient on it)
  • Weekly practicing of my Spanish as I aim to be able to hold full conversations in the language
  • Write 500 words each day to contribute to my 1st book as well as my new blog “Ungraduated.com”

3 things to stop doing in 2021:

  • Stop making any excuses for not prioritizing my wife first before all else – she has been my rock and my soulmate as we’ve been together 20+ years…I will not take our time together for granted
  • Stop drinking completely during the week and limit drinking to just 2 times at most monthly (every other weekend for one evening of the weekend)
  • Stop my incessant daily Starbucks habit and cut it back as I work to get on 100% organic coffee

My personal Mantra for 2021 – “BE WITH ABUNDANCE

There is so much I have to be thankful for in my life and I know that it is my daily attitude, thoughts, and constant gratitude that will bring even more abundance into my life from the universe. This is so that I can continue to bring what I aspire after into the world for the impact that I hope to make for those around me.

For the many challenges 2020 has brought, there is much goodness laying within it. I hope this post helps bring some self-realization for anyone that may read it and perhaps challenge some similar thoughts and reflections.

May 2021 be of happiness, success, and peace for all that are seeking it to be so…

Sovereignty in Life

The word “sovereign” comes from the Latin words “Supra” – meaning above or not below, and Regnum – meaning kingdom or dominion. This translates to “freedom” or not under rulership of any kingdom or dominion. To be a “sovereign being” literally means to rule your own kingdom. Sovereignty does not come from governments, kings, queens, dictatorships, indoctrinations, or other programmable views onto others.

I believe sovereignty it is granted by the Rights of the universe, God, The Source, (insert name for any universal higher power or natural order you believe in) to the individual to live as he or she sees best for themselves. Contrary to some beliefs, we as humans do have a sovereign right to do what we individually feel best for ourselves without direction from governments or other indoctrination groups. It is often the belief of the masses that governments, rulers, and education systems have a right to infringe upon others what they think is best for the masses.

These infringements come in many different shapes and sizes and often are hard for modern humans to distinguish as we have been led to perceive the current world we live in through the eyes of the system that created it.

For example, is it not right that as parents we teach our children to see the world as WE see it and deem it best for their success? How about when it comes time to send our children off to school so that they can learn history, science, literature, and other programs through which they are to view and understand the world? At least in the field of Mathematics it is hard to dispute the outputs of the black and whiteness of the structure through which the numbers work. That is not debatable, but why would we simply not present known evidence to our youth through our learnings of time and let them decide on their own what to believe rather than “testing them” on what teachers just taught them to believe? The current method of education is more akin to “here’s your program; if you don’t take it as I have provided it to you, then you fail and cannot move forward as part of the operating system.” If you really pull back the layers of the current education system, it is a lot more like stripping away the individuality that we all possess, and then accepting the social norms and belief systems that have been placed upon us.

Could there not be a better way of education? I would like to think that the human mind can come up with a far better system in order to provide the necessary means for our youth to function within our current system of life. I’m not saying all education systems are bad or negatively impacting our youth. By all means there are times when a process such as mechanics, engineering, human biology, and many others must be provided in a “matter of fact” way. I would hate to be the patient about to receive open heart surgery from a physician that has decided to “do it his own way.” I am speaking more in terms of education that can and should be left up to interpretation to the individual.

When we reside ourselves to allow the programming of our minds with insight that doesn’t come from our own methods of self-discovery or truth vetting, then we allow for a little bit of our own sovereignty to erode away.

“If someone can change your mind, he or she has won you over without raising a hand against you. This is the future of warfare.”

~ Bangambiki Habyarimana, Pearls of Eternity ~

This wonderful quote from Bangambiki foreshadows what is in store for humanity if we continuously allow our minds to be stolen from the sovereign gift that the universe has given each of us – the ability to think, choose, and act independently of one another. We will find that we become more like cattle being herded into the pens designed by others to mentally keep us where they deem it appropriate if we are not searching and seeking our own truths.

I see a future in which humanity has consciously evolved beyond the need to indoctrinate itself. A future without governments, religious persecutions, money, and “manmade laws.” Within this future society will function for the betterment of itself, rather for the “almighty manmade dollar.” We will do right by others without the need for incentive because we care more for the collective rather than the individual.

I know that this future sounds like a far off Utopian dream, but through the permission of letting our own sovereignty guide us through life, I believe we can attain it. All it takes is creative thinking and the challenging of the current system. The power struggle will ensue as those upholding the current belief system have worked hard to cement it into our realities. After all – they have worked hard to fool us into to believing it must be this way. They have far more to lose and we have only to gain from collapsing the current operating system.

The choice should be ours if we simply allow it to be. We don’t need to continue to shackle ourselves within this broken reality – we are the many, they are the few.

Keep after “Your Why” – the rest will follow.

The Beginning of my Truth Seeking

Since I can remember, I have always been an individual that “asks why.”

I may have driven my parents to the edge of insanity at times with my incessant demands of “why?,” and “how come?” They did their best to answer my many questions, but at some point I decided to put the onus on my own shoulders to seek out the answers to my own big questions.

It was around the age of thirty that I began having a deeper desire to learn more about life, God, the universe, and how it all began. This all occurred after I had established some sort of success in life. I come from a very humble background with little to my name and I, like many, had to earn my way and work hard to achieve the levels through which I have grown and attained. I am proud of my accomplishments, but once I had much of what I had set out to achieve in my young adult life, I began to seek out more meaning and more purpose. I no longer wanted to simply amass items or get more material gains.

It began with a summer conversation with a friend on the back deck of my then eastern Pennsylvania home. That conversation turned very deep and developed into an early morning under the starry sky full fledge debate about life, the universe, our insignificance with the vastness of space, God (or no God as he was more an atheist), and many other points of discussion. I told him there had to be a God – that there was no way possible that we lived within such a beautifully magnificent and awe-inspiring universe randomly.

The next day my neighbor and friend suggested that we each read a book he had come across. The title was, “Is Belief in God Good, Bad, or Irrelevant?” The famous singer of the band “Bad Religion” was a co-author with his friend Preston Jones. They published the book on mostly emails they had exchanged back and forth over the topic. The conversations within the book revolved largely around science, religion, naturalism, and Christianity.

Over the coming days, each of us raced through the book debating the subject matter and trying to formulate our own points of perspective about the topics. At the time, I wasn’t much of a reader, but I flew through the book in about four days. I was hooked from that point on about 10 years ago in 2010 and one source of information led me off one road, onto twists and turns down others.

It all seems somewhat interconnected at this point. I’ve read what feels like hundreds of articles and books on philosophy, near death experiences, out of body experiences, metaphysics, religion & science, past life experiences, and conspiracy theories – just to name a few.

Through this reading I’ve developed my own source of “truth.” It is through my own personal experiences that I have been validating for myself what truths I am experiencing. I have come to understand that if we truly want the answers to some of life’s greatest questions, we must put in the effort, send out the intention into the universe, meditate or pray on it regularly – and then “life responds.” All we have to do is “pay attention” to what is placed before us.

I intend to share many of these life experiences here in the blog and will be encouraging any and all followers of the blog to engage in the conversation and give the examples I share your own personal tests of validation. My discoveries are working for me as I have applied them into my life and it is my hope that I can share and empower others to open their minds and perspectives and seek out their own personal learnings and truth as well.

I would love to hear from others what, if any, big turning points they have had in their lives that have altered or changed their life trajectories or have led them towards big personal awakenings. I have many more stories and books to share, but for now, here is the link of the book mentioned above.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/122215.Is_Belief_in_God_Good_Bad_or_Irrelevant_


Remember – Know your Why, and the rest will follow…

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